I also am in a similar situation and need some advice. My fiance was laid off back in December and was jobless and hunting hard for 4 months. He was lucky to only have been laid off for 4 months…I know many other people have been laid off for much longer. During this time he was unemployed, we faced new challenges as a couple. I was working fulltime but still felt pressure from him to go to the grocery store after work, do the laundry, manage the bills, etc. (and plan a wedding on top of this) Even though we discussed it and I tried and tried my best not to “nag,” I felt like he wasn’t doing much around the house while I was gone and then I had to do it once I got home from a long day at work. I didn’t expect him to do everything, but just little things like unload the dishwasher, throw a load of laundry in every now and then, things like that.
He did get a job in April, thank goodness, but after a couple months of the training, he was VERY unhappy with the job and decided to resign. This was hard decision for him, as he felt like he failed and wasn’t “providing” for me, but I was very supportive of his decision. I would much rather have us have to pinch pennies a little than have him in a job that he hated and felt miserable. Life is too short to be unhappy. 🙂
So here we are again, I’m working fulltime and he’s at home. He helps out his dad for a family business (for little to no pay) but again is slipping into a “vacation” sort of mind set when it comes to doing work around the house. It’s summer time, beautiful weather, and he wants to play. And call me jealous, but I want to play too but someone has to work, you know?? And I just feel like I’m doing all the work (at my job and then once I get home) while he’s out having fun.
Am I being out of line to expect him to do a little more around the house since he’s not working? How do I get him to help more without sounding like a nag?? I need some advice! We’ve been down this road before and I about went nuts.
And please don’t get me wrong, I love my fiance with all my heart and I am so excited to be marrying him. And he does help out at home, just not as much as I might want him to. And I feel like if the tables were turned and the situation was reversed, he would not like it if I didn’t go to the grocery store during the day, cleaned the house, did the laundry, etc. He would not like it if I was at home, doing minimal things and then asked HIM to stop at the grocery store after work to pick up dinner.
I’m so frustrated! :(( Please help!