- 7 years ago
I’m looking for support and advice on ways to deal with my boyfriends ex-wife in social situations. It’s something I have to do since they have kids together and I absolutely get that she will always be a part of our life in some way (doesn’t make it easier to deal with though) so I thought I’d come here and see what others have done to make these encounters, which are a necessary-evil, a tad bit easier 🙂
Here’s some background information: They were together for over 15 years, college bf/gf, they have 3 boys together and a TON of history, friends…etc. She comes from an extremely large family (who he still is close with), he has almost no family. They have very inter-twined lives. She eventually left him for another man (several men actually), she has gone through severe depression, has been hospitalized for manic-depressive disorder. She is anorexic (or bulemic, I don’t exactly know the difference) and has a history of mental illness in her family. She has never been mean to me to my face and her and I have had to small-talk at sporting events…etc, and have do so without any incident (however, it IS extremely awkward).
I have a young boy as well, however his father and I have much more seperate lives since we were not together nearly as long as my current bf and his ex-wife.
This weekend is the first holy communion for my bf’s son. Obviously I will be going, along with a few members of my family who want to show their support to my bf and his son. However, out of the 50 people that will be attending the lunch afterwards, only myself and 2 others will be from my bf’s side. The other 47 will all be her family and their mutual friends from college (none of which I know). I’m just looking for advice to help me get through those few hours where I will be completely emmersed in “her” world…awkward. Thanks!!