Post # 1
Hi ladies, I need some help! The SO and I are going to Hawaii next month for vacation, which happens to fall on our 7 yr dating anniversary. I’m kinda sorta (trying really hard not to get my hopes up) expecting a proposal. I know I shouldn’t but, a girl can dream. Anywho, my question is….is the trip the “gift” or should we be exchanging gifts? We always have in the past, but honestly, I’m kinda over it. There is only one thing in that I want, and he knows it. I want to have a nice gift for him whenever the proposal happens, so I’m kinda stuck trying to figure out what to do since technically, I don’t know when he will pop the question. I have something in mind as an “engagement gift” but if he doesn’t propose in Hawaii then I’d end up giving him the nicer gift as an anniversary gift, and then have to find something else. IDK what do do. argh..does this even make sense?
Question 1: If we’re taking such a big trip, do we still need to exchange gifts
Question 2: If the trip isn’t the gift and we should exchange presents, what would I get? I want to get a really nice watch for engagement gift, but since I have no idea when he’ll propose, I’d be bummed to give him that for a just an anniversary.
Any suggestions? I could just ask him, and I probably will later but I was just wondering if you lovely ladies would have any ideas for me. Thanks!
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center
I go with Watch, with the engraved date of your first kiss or some other significate date. It is all about how you talk it up. Enjoy your trip and we will all be crossing our fingers for you!
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
We don’t exchange gifts for our dating anniversary. We usually go out for a really nice dinner or book a B&B for the weekend and that is our gift to each other.
I would ask him up front if he plans on doing a gift exchange on vacation so you’re on the same page.
In regards to the watch or another expensive gift, if you get him something like that and he doens’t propose are you going to be upset that you bought him an awesome gift and he didn’t? I would definitely clarify with him and even set a budget. If he’s going to propose, it’s not going to be contingent on a gift.
Post # 5
Q – 1 I think that if you’ve done gifts in the last 7 years, you shouldn’t be breadking tradition… get a gift.
Q – 2 If you think a watch is good for this event, then get you SO a watch.
Tradition is just that, and not made to be broken because it’ll feel weird. LOL
Post # 6
Hmmm. That is quite the pickle. Honestly, I don’t think you need to exchange gifts. My SO and I have been together for 8 years, we stopped doing major gifts around year 6. If you want to have something to exchange there, I think you’d be safe to do something homemade, small and cute (yay pinterest!).
Also, it’s such a hassle to bring gifts places. If I were you and I still didn’t feel comfortable going sans gift, I’d buy the watch, leave it at home (wrapped up and everything) and surprise him with it when you get back. If you decide you don’t want to give it to him, then you can save it for later or take it back.
Or you could buy him something there?
And Hawaii!!! That’s so amazing!!! Perfect proposal paradise!
Post # 7
I think you should speak with your SO about gifts. If it’s become your tradition to give gifts on a “dating anniversary” then you don’t want to let him down if he’s expecting a gift; but on the other hand, you both are spending a bunch of money on the trip and you don’t want any “stuff” so you have every reason to drop the gift. It’s just a bit awkward to drop it without knowing where his head is— those gifts may mean a lot to him (either his recieving a gift, or his going out to pick something out for you) and you don’t want to take that away from him.
A simple “honey, i Know we always give gifts on our “dating anniversary” but I was thinking that the house is getting a little full already. Maybe we could treat eachother to a couples’ massage instead?” ought to get the conversation started.
Post # 8
@Sapphire-Dreamer: I like this idea…thanks! I think I am going to get the watch and then wait and see what happens.
@beachbride1216: I kinda wish we hadn’t ever started the gift for anniversary thing. After this many years, it’s getting old…or maybe that’s because the only gift i want is the ring! I will ask him what the plan is…I honestly would be upset if I went all out now, thinking that there is going to be a proposal and I give him a more expensive than ususal gift. I want to have something special to give him after he proposes.
@happyface: yup you’re right. tradition is tradition….I don’t want to be the one to break it!
@BadaBingBling: I agree…after this many years, I’m sorta over the gifts LOL last year we just went to Florida without much fanfare about the anniversary and I was perfectly fine with it. to me 7 years isn’t a major milestone so no need to go all out..and good point that it’s going to be a pain to travel with a gift. hadn’t thought of that. And yea…Hawaii…fingers crossed on it being the perfect proposal place LOL
@fishbone: yup, gonna have to talk to him and find out what he’s thinking…He’s been freaking out about money lately (even though he’s working crazy OT up until we go) so i feel bad. Don’t want him to think that I want him to spend more than he’s already going to spend when we go to Hawaii
Basically, I don’t want to ask him what we’re doing and him to get the idea that I don’t want to buy him something or even worse, that I don’t WANT something (if he’s already got a certain something in mind). Ok so is it terrible that if he’s got something and it’s not a propsal, that I don’t want it? I wouldn’t say that to him, obviously! I’ve got the waitng bug BAD though. Thanks for all the input!