(Closed) Advice needed from momma bees!

posted 11 years ago in TTC
  • poll: When should the Decembers move to Florida?

    If MIL is sick, before the baby.

    Before the baby no matter what MIL's condition is.

    After the baby.

    Something you haven't even thought of yet -- I'll let you know in my comment!

  • Post # 3
    1514 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    Personally, after two weeks from birth I would be in no way shape or form ready to move.  If you’re lucky you’ll just be getting the baby on a normal routine and finally getting a couple of hours of good sleep.  However, if you decide to move down there for the birth, you’ll want to do that ASAP so that you can get to know your new DR and pick a good hospital.  Maybe other moms are different, but after having two kids, this is my opinion.  Good luck!

    Post # 4
    774 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I agree. Being your first baby, I think moving would be a LOT of work! It would be so much easier for you to be settled and have everything in its place where you need it and can easily access it instead of trying to pack, move and then unpack and get settled. Make it easy on yourself. Your friends will go visit. πŸ™‚ 

    Not to mention, it will help you and your hubby having the extra help with the baby from your in laws.

    Post # 5
    2819 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I feel that moving after you had the baby would NOT be a good idea. Everything I’ve read about the first while is that it’s hectic, and I would NOT want to be worrying about packing, renting a moving van, making sure the baby sleeps on the flight/drive over…it’s just too much. As much as it might seem while you’re pregnant, it will be 10 times worse when you’re a new mother.

    Post # 6
    193 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    You may feel tired tired tired at the end of your pregnancy but.. you have no idea what tired is until you have a newborn.

    Even if you have to move when you are 8 or 9 months pregnant.. it will be 100 times easier than moving after having your baby.


    Post # 7
    359 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Start packing! The sooner you get down there and get settled, the better! You’ll be in NO shape to be moving with a small baby.

    Post # 8
    2324 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2020

    Call the vans, woman. You need to be settled…before your life is turned upside down. πŸ™‚ My life wasn’t back to normal feeling until 9 months after she was born. LOL Of course, it just so happened that my Mother-In-Law was diagnosed with leukemia 10 days she was born and died about 6 months later. It was horrible.

    Post # 9
    2640 posts
    Sugar bee

    If you were going for a drive to visit people with a 2 month old, I’d say OK.  But two weeks?  And packing and moving?  Yikes.  I’m concerned you’ll run out of rope between caring for a newborn and trying to move.

    And I say start looking for doctors ASAP.

    Post # 10
    428 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2009 - Church Ceremony/Reception at The Waterford House

    I voted for before the baby because I think after the baby will be way too hard on yourself- physically and emotionally.  I’m sure if you moved earlier, you Mother-In-Law would appreciate the emotional support you’ll be there to give.  (And good luck with that, I hope everything turns out okay).

    Post # 11
    271 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    My cousins just made a move with their 9 week old baby- you could move with a baby that small if you want, because they’re so easy at that point- they’re so teeny and all they do is eat and sleep!

    Post # 12
    114 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I suggest that you move prior to having the baby. Having a baby takes so much out of you initally- emotionally and physically. Having grandparents around could defintely help out, especially when you want to shower and sleep and eat.

    As far as your Mother-In-Law, my mother was diagnosed with BC earlier this year and seeing the look on her fast when her grandchildren around is priceless

    Post # 13
    286 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2007

    I’m a new mom of a 2 month old and I voted for “before the baby”.  If people really want to see the baby in person, they will.  Otherwise, send them pictures via email.  My daughter is a super good baby (doesn’t cry a lot, easy to take care of) and the thought of 1). packing and moving and 2). non-continuity in medical care seems like a lot to handle.  It definitely can be done; I just think that you really won’t know what tired is until you have to handle a newborn AND moving AND all the little errands associated with being in a new location.  And if you have a super fussy or colicky baby….you just might lose your mind and feel overwhelmed.

    Post # 14
    7052 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I would do the move before the baby comes.  That in itself is very very difficult!  I hate moving! And seriously consider saving some $$ for travel because of MIL’s illness.

    I’d have rainy day monies set aside in case the prognosis is poor.  I pray it is not though.  Wish her all the best!

    It’s also going to be doubly hard on mil dealing with your both moving, the baby coming and her not being there and her illness.  So please deal with her delicately.  I agree, this is a difficult time to do all of this.

    Or could you also save monies to have if she is feeling well, your mil come visit and stay for extended time periods with your IL’s?


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