(Closed) Advice Needed- Have a wedding sooner rather than later (LONG POST, SORRY)

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think you should go for it! You still have 10 months to get everything together.  Ask for help!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Even if you don’t get “officially” engaged till after holidays I think 7 months is more than enough time to plan a small wedding.

I think your BF’s reasons are very valid and if I were you I would absolutely agree before his father’s condition worsens.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@KS240030: Definitely have a shorter engagement 🙂  You still have time and you’re having such an intimate wedding, why not do it sooner?  Espcially concerning your future Father-In-Law.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

August is plenty of time to plan. 🙂

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m a June 1, 2012 bride and didnt start planning until this month. I am detail oriented too, and have been driving myself crazy. However, you have enough time. I know for me it doesnt seem like enough time, but when I think of all the months I have yet to go, I know I will be alright. 10 months is a long time. You can do it!!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

you can start planning now and I agree 10 months is defintitely enough time to plan the wedding.  If you are already on weddingbee, you also have a great network to help you plan and make decisions.

GOOD LUCK!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - St. Philip Catholic Church/Arcadia Brewing Co.

I say go for it! You can avoid the lag time that lots of brides face when the planning stalls out! You could also hire someone to help if you think time crunch will be too much, but I think it would be a great gesture to your soon-to be in-laws to move it up!

Good luck with planning either way!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

definitely go for the sooner date- his reason for wanting it sooner is more than valid and if having his dad there mentally is really important to him it should win over a perfectly detailed wedding.  besides the fact that you still have 10 months which is a LONG time to plan

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You have plenty of time. This is a big reason to move it up and will mean a lot to your FH. I think you should bump it up. Especially since you are having a smaller wedding it will not be quite as crazy to get everything together.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Go for the earlier date!  Your FI’s reason for wanting to move up the date are completely valid.  Plus, as someone who’s in the last six months of a 16 month engagement, I can tell you, it’s killing me!  I just want to be married!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

I say go for it. I’m extremely detail-orientated as well and I’m prepared for a short engagement (not engaged yet but the mister has been very vocal about having a short engagement). With being detail-orientated, I know that means you’re probably a fantastic planner so getting all your ducks in a row shouldn’t be an incredibly taxing task!

If you’re comfortable with it, why not start piecing together ideas now to help with the planning process? That’s what the mister and I have done and that alone has helped me be more comfortable with a shorter “window of opportunity” since I know which projects I want to do myself and how long they’ll take. And I agree with the PPs, you have plenty of time before August!

 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

whoops. double post!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I say go for it as well…being married is about compromise and let this be one of your first compromises…planning a wedding is very possible in a short span of time…we got engaged in June and are getting married in January…so it is possible! Good luck to you!

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@KS240030: I am in the opposite boat as you.  I’m waiting (engagement before EOY according to SO) and when we first started talking about weddings and whatnot, I told him I’d like to get married this time next year.

Well, his brother has been battling a serious illness for the past year.  He went back into the hospital about 3 weeks ago due to complications from a bone marrow transplant.  He was on a ventilator for the first part of his stay and on friday they did a trachiotomy.  Anyway, long story short, he asked the other day if I would be okay with pushing it back to 2013, so his brother has time to heal and can be in the wedding.  Naturally I told him he was crazy for asking (like I was going to say no – I’m not a heartless b*tch!) and of course we could move it back.

But now I’m kinda bummed – I was totally looking forward to having wedding planning as a happy distraction from all of the crap that’s happening around us.

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