Post # 1
Hi Bees… I need some help. I’m starting to freak about how many save the dates I sent out based on the number of people we’re hoping will actually come. We have to pay for 150 people. That’s the minimum. But our guest list, is continually growing. Right now it’s at 218. My fiance is from St. Louis originally and that’s where most of his friends are. His family, on the other hand, is from New York, Alabama…all sorts of places but no where near Chicago (where we’re getting married). My side is mostly in the area, so that won’t be a huge issue.
Have we invited too many people? I’ve heard the standard NO ratio is about 20%…but in our case, with so many out of town people, am I freaking out for nothing? I’m trying hard to stick to the budget my dad gave me. I just don’t want him to have to pay for 218 guests!
Any advice on this would be great…or similar senarious.
Post # 3
I feel your pain! I’m having a similar issue (with less people) and let’s face it–they’re sent. I had the same problem. Just sit down, cross your selgs and say ohm. Acceptance. Or at least you’ll be a little calmer 😉 That’s what I do.
Post # 4
We are close to the same boat merelton. I have a 150 min to keep and my Fiance mother sent me a list of 175 people she wants -yikes- My weapon and goal is to have 175 guests total and i will do this by creating an A,B,C…etc list. Mark an A next to a person who HASTONOQUESTIONSABOUTITNOMATTERWHAT be there, B list are for the close friends and family/family friends who wil really keep the night alive within the crowd, C list could be that weird guy your aunt liks from bingo or your mother’s Mary Kay lady, cutting them off with help, no harm in it. you can also choose to have no kids or no guests for some others to bring. dont forget you have to keep your vendors in mind as a head count too…. good luck. keep us posted!
Post # 5
We invited about 190 people for our wedding in february and our reception room only held 150 so i was praying for no’s. My husband is one of 13 kids and comes from a HUGE family, i think he has something like 76 cousins on his dads side so i was super scared about who would end up coming – to keep our guest list low we decided on having a *no kids wedding* besides his siblings. anyone 16 and up were allowed to attend. While alot of people dont like the no kids rule its what worked for us and helped keep our numbers low- I also think our date played into it – it was the dead of winter and though the weather here was nice it was a disaster for those traveling from up north which alot of his family was. I would say 90% of my(sides) guest list showed (most eveyone was from in town anyways) and most of our No’s came from his family. We ended up with a grand total of 120 people including us and our wedding party.
hopefully some of the out of towners will decline – i was invited to 3 weddings this fall/winter – one in October, November and December – unfortunately because of vacation time and $$ we cannot attend the november wedding (all of them are out of town for us) while i would love to go its just not in the cards for us – its super expensive to travel to a wedding if its not driving distance away.
Post # 6
Don’t worry. We were comfortable paying for 150-170 people too and I was really anal on the guest list count at first, but then I realized that on average 20% of the guest list says no. Our list ended up being 210 people and we will hit very close to our target guest count, we don’t have all the RSVP cards back yet but it’s projected to be 165. So just relax not everyone wil say yes.
Post # 7
Thanks for all your comments/advice, Bees! This makes me feel way better. I suppose I really do just need to relax and enjoy the process instead of fret over the numbers. There’s no way every guest we invited will show.