Post # 1
I’m assuming that if you’re squeamish about Too Much Information stuff you wouldn’t be on the intimacy board…but I guess fair warning…
OK – so I’m by no means new to giving head. However, I think I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve finished my husband off orally in the 6 years we’ve been together. It’s usually just foreplay that leads to full sex.
My problem is that we’re now changing things up and I’m having trouble with my gag reflex. We’re not quite ready to TTC yet, but I’m now off the pill, and even though we’re using condoms we’re not comfortable having him come inside me when I’m in my fertile window. So when we’re intimate during that time, I’m finishing him off with my mouth. Problem is, when he ejaculates, it shoots straight back into my throat and makes me gag. Tonight, I actually started coughing and spit stuff back out all over him. It was kind of funny at the time, but not something I really want to repeat.
So, I feel like some sort of inexperienced teenager asking this, but how can I prevent this? For those with a weak gag reflex, do you simply not swallow? What tips can you give me?
Post # 3
@SadieBee: what we do is my boyfriend tells me when he’s about to cum so I can deep throat him and the cum goes straight down. If I can feel it in my mouth/on my tongue at all I will gag. Also, I try not to think about it being in my mouth. Or else I gag
Post # 4
What works for me is if he’s on his back and I’m looking down at his hips, the sqirting doesn’t hit the back of my throat but more the roof of my mouth. Any other way and I have the issue you do.
Post # 5
I think it’s a mental thing. If you’re thinking at the moment you have sploosh in your mouth. You’re more likely to gag. Try sensitizer gels or flavored lubes. i like the strawberry flavored ones. Good head brand is good.
Post # 6
@SadieBee: I’m not really sure what to say other than I just kind of collect it in my mouth as Fiance comes and then swallow after he’s completely finished and out of my mouth.
Post # 7
I agree with a PP, get something flavored and it won’t be so bad. I would think holding it in to spit would make you gag worse, no? LOL
Post # 8
Pure romance sells something that helps with blow jobs. I used it a couple of times and it helped some with my gag reflexes.
Post # 9
I let it hit the back of my tongue instead of letting it go down my throat. Bonus: then you can’t taste it!
Post # 10
Just before he finishes, pull back and use your hands only? If you really don’t like it in your mouth, then don’t finish in your mouth.
Post # 11
I let it collect in my cheek, like between the jaw and the cheek. Then you just toss it back like a good shot, quick and tasteless…for the most part. I almost always try to have a bottle of water nearby to chase away the last of the taste.
Post # 12
I cannot take mouth shots. He tells me when he’s ready and at the last seond I stop and let him finish on the bed or the floor.
Post # 13
Thanks for all the responses! I don’t think it’s so much the taste or the idea for me, but the actual way it hits me in the throat that engages my gag reflex. I’ll try to just reposition/let it collect in my cheek or something first, and if that doesn’t work, maybe I’ll just have to finish with my hand or something. Thanks! 🙂
Post # 14
@Aquaria: I agree I do not take mouth shots he gets finished by hand.
Post # 15
I had an issue with this for the first 4 years of our relationship, and it wasn’t until a couple of months ago that I learnt how to do it without gagging!
When he’s getting closer, I lift my tongue up to block my throat. It’s the same feeling for him, but instead of hitting the back of my throat, it goes underneath my tongue and just collects there until he’s done, then I swallow.
SO really loves that I’ve discovered this haha.