Advice needed: interviewing while pregnant

posted 11 months ago in Career
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Hell to the no.  Illegal or not, pregnancy discrimination is a very real thing.  You’re not obligated either legally OR morally to tell them, and it could very well hurt your chances.  Plus you’re only 9 weeks along… unfortunately, things still go wrong that early.

I’d wait until you’re visibly showing before telling them.  So maybe 4 months or whatever.

PS good luck on the job AND the baby!!  <3

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Negative. I’d wait as long as possible to tell them. You can probably hide it at least until 16 weeks, maybe more depending on your build and wardrobe.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t think you’re obligated at all, however I do feel like where you live plays a role. If you live in the US and are going to take 3 months that’s one thing, but in Canada you can take 18 months, and that’s a whole different ballgame IMO.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

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12Flee :  No, I wouldn’t mention it at your interview.  Absolutely not.  If you get the job I’d wait until you are comfortable telling them and tell them then. 4 or 5 months is plenty of time to get a plan in place for being out of the office.

I interviewed for a job pregnant (unknowingly) but found out the day after I put in my 2 weeks at my old job.  I did tell HR pretty early (after I had started) because I wanted to make sure I knew what my options for leave were but I did not tell my supervisor or coworkers until after 20 weeks.

FYI technically I did not qualify for FMLA but my HR told me they’d work with me regardless to take the leave I wanted even though I did not qualify for FMLA (which is just job protection).

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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saratiara2 :  ditto this

In canada you need a certain amount of hours for mat leave.

Personally I think it’s super shitty to take a job while pregnant only to leave less than 9 months later for an undetermined amount of time. Employers invest time in you and expect the same in return, so if this is a company you want to stay at, I wouldn’t expect much in future if you do take the job without telling them you’re pregnant. Pregnancy discrimination is very real, but I can totally see the point in not wanting to hire someone who’s pregnant and will potentially be gone longer than they’ve been around.

In canada if they ask if you have any medical conditions HR is obligated to keep this a secret so if you do tell anyone I would write that down on your file 

Post # 7
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Helper bee

You are absolutely NOT obligated to share that info. I get what you’re saying in that regardless of legality they may still feel duped by you. But that’s okay because someone in HR mgmt. Consulting (like me) would remind them that their feelings are misplaced. If they really are a reputable company it won’t be an issue. Wait until you are absolutely ready to share that information. I promise you they will be just fine. Congratulations!!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
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12Flee :  if you are in the US, don’t tell. You are only 9 weeks. I wouldn’t tell until they can tell and ask. It won’t hurt you if they don’t know. It could if they do. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
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12Flee :  any reputable company (or any company actually worth working for) it will not be an issue to take your leave or time away.  It wasn’t an issue for me and right before I gave birth to my second baby they hired someone very visibly 6-7 months pregnant.  It wasn’t an issue for her either (or the company).

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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12Flee :  do NOT tell them. As a former hiring manager I can tell you I was not happy the one time a candidate told me she was pregnant because it put me in an awkward spot. If it is information that I can’t use to decide whether or not to hire you I don’t want to know it. I ended up getting feedback from the team she would be working with and after they said “for sure, we love her hire her” I said “great I’ll get the letter out today. Also By The Way she’s pregnant” to make sure it didn’t impact their deliberative process. 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

If you’re only taking 2 months I don’t think it matters

 

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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ladyvk :  that’s part of the cost of doing business. They could also spend months training an employee for them to get hit by a bus, or develop cancer, or decide it’s not a good fit. Most employees care way more about making sure they don’t risk screwing over their employer than the other way around and I think that’s nuts. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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12Flee :  I mean you won’t be able to hide it at 1-2 months out so that’s kind of moot. I would want to know when the person felt comfortable telling people which is typically anywhere from 12-20 weeks depending on the individual. Personally I told my work at around 14 weeks. 

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