Post # 1
So we were hoping to have our ceremony and reception in the same space.
because of how the venue is set up and the amount of people we are inviting (86) the ceremony space only allows for 70 chairs (because of how much space the tables will take up at the front of the venue). the reception space will be completely set up, and at the very back of the venue will be the ceremony space.
Since everyone that we are inviting is very close to us I assume we will get around 85 RSVPs, and if not maybe we will add a few people. we are having a very short ceremony, probably about 15 minutes… there are also 8 people in the wedding party, so there still would be 8 few chairs. Is this tacky? should we just have our ceremony at another venue?
Post # 2
Certainly don’t add a few, if you get less than 85 accepting.
I usually attend weddings with my 90 year old mother (bad knees & arthritis), and my physically disabled husband. Although I look healthy, I just got a steroid injection today, in my spine. If you didn’t have chairs for us, and all your other guests, I could imagine that some would simply leave.
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom
Knowing that not all my guests could sit down doesnt sit right with me.
Post # 4
not adding more. Asking if we need a chair for every guest
Post # 5
not having enough chairs for every guest would be tacky. Move the chairs from the other side of the room yourself if you have to.
Post # 6
She meant don’t add more guests if you get declines. You can’t properly host 86 guests at this venue. It’s definitely tacky/rude to not have enough chairs.
Post # 7
It’s poor form to not have enough chairs. Some of your guests may have ailments or disabilities that you don’t know about and aren’t visible that would prevent them from standing for any period of time, and, honestly, I’d be annoyed to get there and find out I had to stand in the back. I’d feel less important than your other guests and out of place.
Post # 8
I think you will be fine. Even though everyone is very close to you i’m sure 8 people will decline. People will be sick and decline last minute. People will be stuck in traffic and be late. It happens.
Yes it is rude not to have a seat for everyone, but concidering you don’t have your rsvps back yet, i think you are safe. But as pp have said, when people decline, do not invite others unless more than 8 people decline.
Post # 9
Unless it has been in a church every wedding I’ve been to has had less chairs than guests at the ceremony I’ve never heard anyone complain common sense comes into play immediate family and old/dsiabled sit first able bodied stand. The problem i have found is that people don’t want to take a seat thinking someone might need it more so seat remain empty including some asile seats which isn’t a good look so you can have your celebrant ask for all of the seats to be filled before you walk
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2015 - Ruby Princess
You will probably have around 70 agree to come. I bet it will work out perfect. If there are a few ppl over, maybe ask a couple of your able-bodied friends to stand(?) if they don’t mind. I know my friends would understand that kind of thing. I really think you’ll be ok though.
to give you an idea, i invited 54, and 42 rsvp’d yes. that’s an 78% acceptance rate, which is about average.
Post # 11
“Unless it has been in a church every wedding I’ve been to has had less chairs than guests at the ceremony
A word to the OP: jmbee (like me) is Australian, and that seems to be an Australian thing. I don’t think it’s so common in Canada where the OP is from.
Post # 12
Imagine how those 8 people will feel when the other 70 odd get to sit? Second class guests is what I would feel like.
Also a 15 minute ceremony actually equates to about 30-40 minutes, what with arriving promptly and waiting for the ceremony to start and finish.
Post # 13
Once you get your RSVPs in you will know if this is an issue. If so, rent/borrow/buy 8 chairs so everyone can sit down. Very simple.
Post # 14
Every butt needs a seat, excluding bridal party and officiant. Anything else is rude where I’m from, never mind tacky.
Post # 15
its not that we are too cheap to get chairs, its the the space cant fit anymore chairs… otherwise we totally would rent more