Advice needed on big life decision…

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

slomotion :  lol, my fiance and I are having a mixed marriage. I’m a native dallasite and he’s from ft worth. I live in Oak Cliff and love it! We’re compromising on Bedford, that’s as far West as I can go and I’m really TRYING to be okay with it, jk kinda 🙂

To the OP, just know that it gets pretty hot in the summer. I know you’ll make new friends. I like to go to meetups whenever I start a new hobby and want to meet new people. Especially if you don’t have a lot of things holding you in your current home, I would move. If y’all hate it, at least he’ll have this experience and maybe can transfer somewhere else with a promotion.

Good luck!

Post # 17
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Assuming you don’t have a career that requires state-specific licensing/certifications/exams, I’d do it. We probably wouldn’t because I’m a lawyer and there are only about 2 states worth it to me to sit through another bar exam for and Texas is not one of them. 

As PPs said, it doesn’t have to be a forever thing. If you guys really aren’t happy there, you can always move.

 

ETA: wait are you guys at least engaged? If not yet, then I wouldn’t make a big move for him until then.

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Post # 18
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Helper bee

The only thing I would advise is to spend more time in Dallas and see if you like it before making the move. I moved to a city an hour away from my university for work (and the same day’s drive from my home). I was familiar with the overall area, so I didn’t realize how much I would hate the city once I moved here. It’s hands down the worst place I’ve ever lived, and I’m stuck here at least until my lease is up at which point I can triple my commute to live in a nearby city that’s growing. If it were me, I would make sure I like the new home before I uproot myself to move there.

But that’s just me! Some people adapt more easily to new surroundings. This is a deeply personal decision that only you and your SO can make.

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

As someone who is Texas born and bred, I love it here. I lived in the Dallas/Fort Worth area for most of my life until I got married and moved to Houston. If you like the bustling city feel, Dallas itself is fine. I would recommend living in the mid cities area, depending on what you can afford and what your lifestyle is like. Fortunately, there’s quite a lot of variety in TX. If you are looking for things to do to meet new people, theater is great. You don’t even have to be on stage. Haha. The DFW area is quite friendly. The schools are also better in the mid cities area. Depending on budget and lifestyle, look at Hurst, Euless, Bedford, Colleyville, Grapevine (more historic feel, good middle ground), Southlake (Uber ritzy but schools are bar none and there’ virtually no crime). Good luck!!

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

anabolina :  i say I’m born and Dallas raised for the sake of this post, and because i live in Dallas currently, but i grew up in Bedford!  And now work in Euless.  Midcities will always be “home” but i could never move back here!  When i leave work I cant get east quick enough 🤣

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

hillputaringonit :  I’m looking forward to a quieter life, maybe. Oak Cliff is pretty diverse and urban, so Bedford is a huge change, but FI’s house hits most of the boxes, within walking distance of good schools, a park and a rec center and technically within walking distance of the dog park. Plus a Kroger within a mile. It’s close enough to the freeway for getting around the metroplex easily. Plus my office is moving in 2019 from downtown Dallas to right by DFW, so his home will be convenient to it. We are considering if the house is big enough though, 1300ft 3/2.  With both of us needing separate office spaces to work from home, plus future TTC or fostering….. We might consider building in one of the more rural communities to the South or East. Prices in the midcities have been rising pretty fast. FI’s house gained 30k value this year. Which part of town are you living in?

Also to the OP, depending on what you want want, different parts of town will feel different. I moved every year for the past 8 because I don’t mind moving and I like getting a feel for various parts of town.  So far, Oak Cliff is my fav, but I wouldn’t recommend it for everyone.  Some people feel unsafe in parts of it and parts of it are unsafe.  Also, East of downtown off Greenville and Munger was a fun part of town too with a super cute dog park by Baylor hospital.

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2019

appleblossom217 :  Maybe then look at some other areas at least for context.  It might help you clarify how you feel about the area and potentially help negotiate a better relocation package.

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Who’s career is more important? If its his and you won’t hate living in the South, then move. If its not his then don’t move. 

There’s no way to not prioritize one career over the other because the only options are to move or not move. If you move then you are prioritizing his career. If you don’t then you are prioritizing yours. There’s no way to half move or move every other month. And this is not the last time something will come up, so you both need to make that decision. 

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

anabolina :  i know where you will be, i grew up not far from that part of Bedford!  It’s a great area and great place to raise a family, and for the most part you are centrally located between Dallas and Fort Worth and can be anywhere in 15 minutes, given the traffic!  

We are currently in North Dallas and currently looking for a house in Richardson, Plano, and Far North Dallas areas.

Post # 26
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Sugar bee

Life is short! Have an adventure! You can always move back! 

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

appleblossom217 : if you do decide toake the move, I’d probably look at an apartment in the Addison/far north Dallas area to start out.  I know a lot of young couples and singles that live in that area  and it’s central enough if you also find work.

Stay away from the 75287 zip code because it has a higher  crime rate then the surrounding area.  That area is central and convenient to a lot of places. I once lived at an apartment off Preston and Frankford(far north Dallas), like 8 years ago. It was very quiet and reasonably priced.  

Maybe look at the public transit lines if y’all want to do that instead of needed to drive. I lucked out and ended up finding a place on the same bus route as work. So I don’t need to transfer. The trains are also nice enough. I enjoy doing a park and ride to go downtown and avoid having to look for parking. 

Post # 28
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

anabolina :  Bedford is great! I worked there for years. We’re in Richland Hills so we can get most places in the area within 20mins. My husband is from San Antonio and only moved here for me, he hates all parts of North Texas equally.

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