Post # 1
last year we postponed our November 2020 to this May 2021. We’re in Canada and things are a mess here. We’re in constant lockdowns and it’s looking like my wedding next month will be even a worse scenario than if I had kept my November wedding date last year. My fiancé and I are strongly against postponing now because we postponed once so it would be better and it actually got way worse, and we don’t want to postpone and wait any longer for something that’s not gaurenteed anyways.
Now, next month we can have 100 people in the church which is great, but during the night time reception it will have to be at my parents home since the venue will be closed now.
mom wondering- from other brides who had at home weddings, how was it? My main worry is that it will not feel as special, or like a wedding since it’s taking place at my parents home (where we gather for almost every occasion/ just to hang out on a normal day) so I worry that I will not feel as much like a bride, and it won’t feel like a wedding. Any bees who’ve done this can chime in to describe how it felt and if you had the same worries?
Post # 2
My opinion is that it will feel like a wedding when you have the most important people there to watch you get married. If you elope and get married in your dream location but have no one there, you will feel like you missed out. If you get married in your backyard but have your dearest there with you, it will feel like a special day. Don’t place too much emphasis on the venue. Many people who get married in a church go to that church on a regular basis, so that’s a point of frequent gathering and it doesn’t make the wedding feel inferior.
I would postpone one more time, because things are going to get better once vaccinations ramp up in Canada. Canada is in a humongous mess right now, and if I were you, I wouldn’t feel safe right now even if your ceremony was outdoors. 100 people in a church, most of them relying on only masks to protect themselves? You might have many cancellations if your guests are taking COVID seriously.
Without widespread inoculations, you are going to have to make major modifications to things like dancing and seating. A 100 person wedding is for when the majority of your guests are fully vaccinated and it’s worth the risk of contracting a variant that the vaccines aren’t as effective against. If you want to get married next month, a close family and best friends type of wedding is your best bet. Even 100 people in an average backyard is pretty cramped.
I’m really sorry. You’re painfully aware of the fact that we still aren’t out of the woods with COVID.
Post # 3
sorry if I wasn’t clear in my post. 100 people would be at the ceremony at the church (which is 15% capacity of our church so there is ample room for spreading out)
the reception only would be at our home. With about 15 people just close family the majority will be vaccinated already
Post # 4
Do it at home would be my choice, not postponing again. You can just never be sure even with the vaccine. Actually, l think there will be something rather nice about future meetings at your parents house and being able to think ‘ we got married standing right there by the fireplace’
Post # 5
Even in normal times it’s considered inappropriate to specifically invite people to an earlier wedding ceremony and not the reception. The exception is an open church service where the entire community is included. The opposite, an intimate ceremony and larger reception, is fine. But 100 people indoors at this time is a foolish and risky plan regardless of the capacity of the church. Variants are becoming dominant and are far more contagious.
As for intimate home weddings, they were once very common and are considered by many people to be more sentimental than a rental hall. Home weddings can be as simple or fancy as any.