- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2015
Hi fellow brides!
My Fiance and I got engaged at the end of August. We immediately decided that we wanted a longer engagement (2 years) right off the bat. We really liked the idea of getting married in September of 2015 – because the weather is wonderful where we live (Boston) and we also want to honeymoon in Greece, which has great weather in September as well. We have very small immediate families, but a lot of very close friends. Our guest list right now sits at about 110. We knew if we get married around here that we want to have it in Boston (where we met, lived, went to college etc.) The only problem is, I really don’t see us having a traditional ballroom, hotel or country club venue type of wedding. There are a lot of unique wedding venues in Boston, but some either have too much space for our 110 guest list, and others are smaller (i.e. restaurantS) that would require us to cut down our list. There really isn’t any wiggle room to cut our guest list down any more. I would consider my style modern but classic – and I admit I am slightly picky.
My Fiance also isn’t the “traditional” type – we really just want to have an amazing and fun wedding (who doesn’t) – so out came the idea of a destination wedding in Greece. My Fiance is Greek, his grandparents are first generation. We have brought the idea to both of our parents attention and they both seem to like the idea. We think it would be a great way to have an amazing unforgettable wedding, in a meaningful place. For us, we would like everyone to be able to come – but really wouldn’t want to pressure anyone to feel like they had to attend. We would be fine with our immediate family and a few close friends. Where I need advice is with the following:
1. Is it selfish to have a destination wedding in Europe and ask guests to travel overseas for our wedding? We have been to a destination wedding in the carribean, but it requires less cash outlay and less travel.
2. Do we still invite the 110 on our list, with the expectation that we know the majority will reply no?
3. Do we have a reception/celebration back home for the people that could not attend?
4. Did any Destination couples send a preliminary email or communcation to the “must have” attendees that they truly wanted to travel to the wedding asking them if this is something that they would likely be able to and want to attend?
5. How soon to start planning and or let the guests know that this is what you are planning?
6. Do you still host the traditional pre wedding events (shower, bachelorette etc).?
Also – did anyone have their wedding in Greece? If so, would love details, pictures, information!
Any comments are appreciated 🙂