(Closed) ADVICE NEEDED! When to tell a new job? Maybe lie?

posted 6 years ago in Career
Post # 3
3968 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@ohmybears48:  Yikes. I haven’t had to experience this and I hope I wont have to, but I would think 10 months out you could discuss your plans. Surely you will have personal days and some vacation days accrued by then that you can use! And you’re giving plenty of notice!

Post # 4
2104 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Normally I negotiate during the official job offer and let them know I already have vacation plans and that the tickets are booked.  I’d say you have a pretty good case since it’ll be your honeymoon – it’s not just any random vacation.  Hopefully they’ll be very understanding and flexible!  Congrats on the new job!!!

Post # 5
1839 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

idk i think this is prob the kind of thing you shoulda mentioned upfront in the interview, but since it’s too late for that now, can you wait and see how much vacation time you’ll be given? maybe it wont be a problem

Post # 6
311 posts
Helper bee

I would tell them the truth. I had a trip to Central America for volunteer work a week after I started at my current job. I was gone for about 2 weeks myself. I was honest with the doctor and told her my plans at the job interview and obviously still got the job. If they’re reasonable enough, I think they’ll understand a vacation for a honeymoon without you jepordizing your offer.

Post # 7
5296 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

@ohmybears48:  Darling Husband got his first “big kid” job offer three months before the wedding. They had a 90 day probation period where they didn’t really want new employees to take time off……..and we had about 7 days worth of days off that Darling Husband needed…eeks!

He didn’t say anything until they offered him, and then before accepting it, he brought up that he would need those days off for his wedding/HM (which had also been booked for several months at that point) and asked if it would be an issue. They were totally fine with it. 

Post # 9
504 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Once you get the job offer I would tell them that you have a planned vacation coming up that could interfere with your work hours. and then tell them the dates. 

Post # 10
963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@ohmybears48:  You should definitely talk to them before you accept the offer. Let them know that you are very excited to work there, blah blah blah, but you have already booked a vacation in September and will need time off. Most jobs are pretty understanding and will work with you to find a solution (letting you temporarily go negative in time off, giving you additional unpaid days, etc).

ETA: Remember that before accepting the offer, you have the most leverage with an employer to get additional benefits (ie vacation days) that you wouldn’t normally give. Also, if I asked directly, I would advise telling the truth because they will remember that you lied about it and it may make it harder to get the time off later on.

Post # 11
642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

If them giving you the time off is a deal breaker, you need to tell them.  Will you still take the job if they say no?

Im sure they will try to accomodate you, but just think about what if they say no.

Post # 12
519 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

You need to tell them before you accept the offer. It’s not going to be better telling them later. And, if you aren’t going to have enough vacation time by then, you need to negotiate something now because I can’t imagine they are going to be very happy that you are asking for extra time at a later date. Perhaps you can get unpaid time off? That is better than nothing, and might be all you can expect so early into a new job. 

Post # 14
615 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Smithfield Center

You have to tell them the truth upfront. Just say your honeymoon/wedding are already booked and ask if it is a problem to take that time off. Honestly, if their answer is that you won’t be allowed, then you probably don’t want to work there anyway. If a job won’t be so flexible with such a big thing as your wedding/honeymoon, they won’t be flexible with anything else, either.

Post # 15
2295 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

This is so not a big deal, at least at my company. I am a hiring manager. The appropriate time to tell them is after you have the offer, but before you accept. Before you get the offer is too early, because it can make a candidate look presumptuous. Just tell them, “I wanted to let you know I have a vacation planned for September X – October Y. I’m happy to take that time off unpaid, as I know I won’t have earned enough vacation yet. Do you see any problems with that?”

This far out, it shouldn’t be an issue at all. Once you talk to them about it, just email them a recap of your conversation saying exactly what was said on the phone and ask them to reply back and let you know if you captured the notes correctly, and then you have it documented.

SO not a deal breaker for a candidate we like. This has happened with MOST of our good hires, actually… because they have lives, and interests, and have options (like staying at other jobs if an employer won’t let them have said life).

Post # 16
3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Lying to a new job is usually a bad move. Don’t do it.

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