- 6 years ago
Just to cut to the point:
Boyfriend and I’ve been together 8, almost 9 years. Rock solid relationship, hardly no fights. Don’t scream or yell ever; very calm individuals. He is a very social individual, where I am not. And he likes to go out with friends, I don’t. Well, my problem is jealousy and a bit of insecurity and this is what stemmed the fight.
He took it as I don’t trust him (to not cheat on me, etc.). And he says that for 8 years he thought he had my trust and apparently he didn’t. So, long drawn out fight (no yelling though, just talking and crying) for a week now. We seemed to make up, but he isn’t very affectionate towards me.
I’ve told him that it’s not that I don’t trust him, because I do. I know for a fact he would never cheat on me. I told him I don’t trust the other people, because you never can. At one point he talked about maybe a break, but never initiated one, because he said he didn’t want to.
Right now, he seems just very confused on his emotions. He says he loves me and that he is still in love with me, but at this point I think our ‘future’ plans are on hold.
I mean, we were talking engagement, looked at rings 5 months ago yada yada yada. Now it’s all seemed postponed. I don’t understand how guys can’t explain how they are feeling. Does he just need more time? He says he just sorta feels numb to everything. Could something like, me apparently not trusting him, when I really did, be a game changer?
Like I said, we had a rock, solid relationship and now it seems to be skewed.
Any help is so greatly appreciated.
PS. Then mom puts words of doubt saying, “I’ve been manipulated before and this isn’t even a big deal and he’s making a big deal.” I don’t know…