- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2015
My fiance and I need some advice. We’re getting married in a little over a month and are (mostly) done with planning at this point. The biggest stressor is our anxiety related to getting our officiant on the same page as us.
Background: he is a close family member who has married virtually everyone in bride’s family (including my parents) and it is very important to have him involved in a meaningful way. We would like to approach the subject soon, but don’t want to potentially lose him as the officiant if we can’t see eye-to-eye (namely, if he insists on injecting religion into our ceremony). So far I plan to have an honest conversation (mentioning that having a ceremony true to us is important, as is his involvement in it) but am at a loss as to how to approach this without offending, or worse, ending up with a ceremony that we’d regret having.
Has anyone else encountered this issue, and how did you resolve it? Any words of wisdom with how we approach this? I am the only atheist in the family so a bit of a #blacksheep