(Closed) Advice – OK to tell friends about upcoming proposal?

posted 6 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
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4049 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

If he wants to keep things quiet, then respect his wishes. Think about how exciting and what a surprise it will be when you tell them you are engaged.

Now, if you still want to chat with your best friends, I totally get it. Haha. My closest friends know we have a ring and will get engaged this winter. I discussed it with my SO first though. I asked if I could share, and he said sure. He even let me show my best friend the ring (and I didn’t even ask). It’s like he’s excited to share too!

But otherwise, I would try to keep a secret if he wants to keep it on the DL.

Post # 4
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3258 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Doooon’t do it! I mentioned to a girlfriend that we might be getting engaged shortly (because she asked…I didn’t volunteer this) and she literally asked me each and every day for like a month. “did he ask yet? did he ask yet?” had gotten so darn old I didn’t even know what to do with myself, lol

Also, because she was so tuned in, she wound up getting the scoop before my parents and other important folks because she had been the only one nosey enough to stake out the info. In retrospect, I sorta wish it hadn’t gone down like that.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Laur12:  that’s what we’re here for! Talk to us Bees til you’re blue in the face if it keeps you sane! (I know I sure do, lol)

Post # 8
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2906 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Overjoyed:  Ditto to this!

I told like, 37 people after we bought the ring… and it was like that commercial where “she tells five people… and they tell five people…” and by the time we actually got engaged, I was totally sick of talking about it. And everyone asked like, every single day, “Are you engaged yet?!” If I could do it over again, I’d keep it me and FI’s secret until the cat was out of the bag and the ring was on my finger.

Post # 9
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4352 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I kept it a secret and I’m glad I did. I didn’t want to deal with “when is it going to happen?” It would have made it more difficult for me to wait for the proposal.

Post # 10
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986 posts
Busy bee

@asscherlover: +1 to this advice.

I would respect his wishes and keep it quiet for now – it will be that much more fun when you can call and tell them he proposed! Those are some of my favorite memories aside from the actual proposal, was hearing everybody freak out!

Post # 11
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2523 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’ve told my two closest friends and my family obviously knows because he asked for their blessing, but my friends aren’t irritating and annoying, so they don’t ask me repeatedly

OMFG R YU ENGAGED R WUT?!

Because I would fucking kill them.

I mean it’s not like I’m counting down or anything.
*cough*21 days*cough*

Post # 12
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356 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I really really tried to keep it a secret that my SO and I went ring shopping, but I was dying to tell my best friend. I just really wanted everyone to be surprised, but I don’t really keep much from here and I found that I was actually avoiding talking to her because I was afraid I would let it slip, lol. So I asked my SO and he was fine with me telling her, so I did and it was so nice to be able to chat with her about how excited I am!

Post # 13
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1069 posts
Bumble bee

I wouldn’t. I did and it’s backfired. My bf said in June that he was going to “buy a nice ring and propose soon”.. I told a couple friends right away and it hasn’t happened yet so now I feel stupid!

Post # 14
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46 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I told a few really close friends to get excited and ready for it to happen at some point soon. No big deal. After it happened, I just had to solidify that it happened and there we go. Easy.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Don’t do it! I know it’s hard. Before we got engaged, I knew about it and got to hear all about how Fiance told his parents and best friends. It stunk, but was sooooo worth it in the end.

Post # 16
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Newbee

Don’t tell anyone….if it’s only to avoid embarrising moments!

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