(Closed) Advice on Bridal Shower

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

In our culture, the bride helps out plan the shower with the girls. I’m involved in planning my shower. We’re having a Parisian Themed shower. I will be including the registry information in the invites, I can’t wait for it to come.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My shower was yesterday and my BMs and some others planned everything.  They asked what I wanted and didn’t want, and they went from there.  They asked me to come with them when they had their “planning meetings” and I went to a few, but I mostly just sat there.

I don’t have pictures yet (BM’s mom took pics for me) but everything was pink and white. They had pink tablecloths (the plastic rolled kind) and pink carnations and candy dishes with mints on the tables.  One of the mom’s also made little wedding dress and tuxedo gift bags filled with hershey kisses for the favors.  They got hand soaps from bath and body works for prizes.  We only did the “timer game” while I was opening presents and everybody loved that.  OH, they also had pink paper lanterns hanging all over the place!! For the food, everybody made something, we had little sandwiches, pasta salads, fruit salads, fruit and veggie trays, and cake! I’ll post pics as soon as I get them.

I guess what you could do is talk to whoever will be the hostest and ask if they want you involved.

Edit: They did put my registry info with the invitations. They put in the little cards that the stores gave me.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I dont know what “tradition” is on bridal shower stuff but Im helping cause I’m  a control freak, plus I dont want to be on the board later posting about how my bridal shower wasnt what I expected because “I didnt have this” or “they had that”

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

As far as I’ve ever known, the bride is not supposed to be involved at all, and it’s supposed to technically be a “surprise.”  I had no say in mine, and I just threw my sister’s and she had no involvement.  Mine didn’t really have a theme, but my sister’s was Alice in Wonderland-themed.

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My mom took responsibility for planning my entire bridal shower, and she’s asking for my input.  Honestly, I didn’t want the extra stress of being “surprised” on some random day so she let me know when it is also so I can have hair and makeup done.  She’s doing a “Breakfast At Tiffany’s” theme at a catering hall, and I know she included the registry information on the invitations.  The also included a recipe poem, recipe card, and wishing well poem with the invites.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

I did not help plan my own shower.  We didn’t have any games (I didn’t want any).  It was a luncheon at a nice restaurant in downtown Chicago.  My Maid/Matron of Honor did include registry information on my invitation.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Miss Wrangler:  I’m doing french macaroons for favors, they’re easy to make and yummy to eat.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We’re doing rhinestone compacts along with cake pops and chocolate covered pretzels in the Tiffany theme.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It really isn’t appropriate for brides to help plan their showers, except for providing a guest list and perhaps thematic input.  The event is meant to shower the bride with gifts, so over-involvement on her part can be seen as gift grabby.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I just had 2 of my showers this weekend.  One was during lunch and the other at dinner.  Both were small (around 20 people each) and both were lovely!  I only provided a list of available dates, a guest list, and an opinion on games and that was it.  I don’t think brides should be very involved in their shower since it’s a gift-giving party in their honor (though I live in the States so I can’t speak for other countries/cultures).  One shower had a a polka-dot and it was really cute.  Registry information can definitely go on the invites (since it is supposed to be a gift giving party).

One of my BMs is getting married a few months after me so 2 of her other BMs and I are helping her with her shower.  She doesn’t have any input besides date and a guest list.  It also doesn’t really have a theme, it’ll just be pink and elegant.  It is also an afternoon shower (1-4pm) so we’re just serving appitizers.

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I agree that tradionally a bride shouldn’t help “plan” the shower…I just know the aspects of it Wink  I did not pick the place, theme, centerpieces, invites, etc…that’s all my mom and I’ll be surprised with all her wonderful details. 

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think being gift grabby is when you send out registry info lol

Im involved with my shower because I want to have a good time and dont want to have the raunchyness set in there since Iwont be having a bachelorette party. Im not deciding everything but I did pick my invites and the color scheme

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