Post # 1
hello everyone. I am in a long distance relationship that has been going strong for 2 years. My girlfriend and I have been talking about getting engaged/married for a long time and I know that we are both ready.. With our relationship being long distance (for the moment) I only see her every couple of weeks, partly because of her job. I am going to see her for 5 days this week and was planning on getting engaged..
the problem, however, is that her uncle just died. He had been ill for a while, but her whole family is gathering for the funeral and if we get engaged this weekend I am somewhat afraid his death will overshadow the happiness..I really want to get engaged this weekend because im not sure the next time that we will be together, and it is the right time for our relationship, but I am not sure if it is inappropriate to do so after a sick family member has just passed.
any thoughts are greatly appreciated! thank you.
Post # 3
@conservkwm: I’d say wait. I wouldn’t have wanted to get engaged right before/after a funeral. Of course, you know your Girlfriend better than I do, so maybe it wouldn’t bother her, but you’ll want to be sure. My fiance and I used to be long distance (for 4 years) and only see each other once every month or two, so I understand not wanting to wait. However, you know you are going to see her again in a few weeks, so it’s not like you’re going to have to wait a year. I just wouldn’t want to risk her (or her family) finding it innapproriate.
Post # 4
I’d wait. Neither she nor her family are probably in much of a mood to celebrate. You don’t want your engagement to be dampered with any bad feelings whatsoever, especially grief.
Post # 5
I’d wait. I am sure you will have more time together in the not too distant future.
Post # 6
thanks, everyone, i figured as much…more waiting i guess…. 😛
Post # 7
@conservkwm: I’d wait. Maybe you can plan a long weekend in a month or so and do it then. Right now the family will be grieving the loss of a loved one and with such a happy time like an engagement, I feel there would be alot of mixed and emotional feelings. Its very possible with all the emotion of the family, they may find it very inappropriate and be extremely unhappy with your timing.