- 5 years ago
I’ve posted about this before but things have gotten to the point where my mother is considering breaking off ties with my SIL (brother’s wife). She basically shows no respect, is maniupulative, fake and just acts like she is above everyone. Of course, it’s all subtle–in your face she’s super sweet. She’s so manipulative that those who are not close to her would never guess. Anyway, my brother is of course always on her side because she’s his wife–and that’s fine with us. But he has become a stranger to our family. My mom and I basically feel we have no son/brother. I mean essentially he is only super nice when he wants $ (that is, when SIL sweetly decides she wants something and he has to get it for her)…so he knocks on my parent’s door.
Now that they’re having a baby it’s obvious they are holding out on something cash wise from my parents. Don’t ask me how we know–it’s a pattern. They basically ignore us when they don’t want something and come around when they do. My mother is sick of it and has decided to not call them anymore and ignore them as much as possible.
She has even decided not to attend the baby shower. It’s not like anything she does will bring her closer to her son–trust me she has given EVERYTHING and my brother always expects more.
I’m kind of wondering what I should do at this point. Should I also just ignore them and not attend the shower? I feel terrible for my mom. I also do not like SIL at all and feel that I barely even know my bro anymore.
Please don’t tell me that by not attending the shower I will be losing the opportunity to grow closer to my SIL or possibly lose my brother. Trust me, that has already happened. I just don’t want to deal with them anymore–but don’t know how to do it without causing a ton of drama.