Post # 1
Hey Bees, my husband and I are having a small reception (10 people) next month to celebrate our marriage since we eloped during the pandemic. I’m nervous it won’t feel special enough for the guests. We rented a small banquet room in a historic manor with a 5 star menu in town. We were planning on taking photos there with the family, I’m going to wear my dress, and we’re doing cocktails and dinner there. I wasn’t planning on any speeches or dancing, but my Mother-In-Law just told me she’d be sad if there wasn’t dancing. I feel like guests might be expecting a bigger ordeal then I planned, and I’m feeling insecure about it. Has anyone else planned something small to celebrate your marriage after already getting married? Should I incorporate other things to make it more special? My husband and I just wanted something low-key, but should we do something else?
Post # 2
Our microwedding didn’t have dancing. It was essentially a ceremony and fancy sit-down dinner with an open bar, and people seemed to enjoy themselves. A dance floor/formalized dancing doesn’t make much sense for a ten person gathering, imho.
The things we did to bring our wedding up a notch from the usual cocktail or dinner party was to 1) book a jazz trio for cocktail hour and dinner music (upbeat enough that people could have danced had they wanted to, but no one did), and 2) hire a live wedding painter. We now have a beautiful wedding day portrait of the two of us hanging in our home, and guests got to watch it being painted in real time.
Post # 3
An historic manor with a five-star menu sounds wonderful. Is your future Mother-In-Law always such a bitch?
Post # 4
Your plan sounds lovely. Perhaps plan a server to greet your guests with glasses of champagne upon arrival? Plan some nice background music and ask someone to give a simple ‘to the bride and groom’ toast. Most importantly, enjoy yourselves!
Post # 5
I don’t think you should worry too much about making it feel “special” for the guests… make sure it feels special to YOU! This is a time to celebrate you and your husband and your loved ones will be happy to be there for you no matter what. Focus on the details that make you and your husband happy, and your guests will be happy too!
Post # 6
Your plan is absolutely lovely – and maybe I’m sightly biased because it pretty much matches exactly what we did in September 2020.
We rented a private room in a high end restaurant, started with a champagne toast, and had a gorgeous seated meal.
Our guests were family – 7/10 had met previously, so in between courses we played a couple of rounds of a silly card game called “who in the room” (it has questions like “who in the room is most likely to … survive on a deserted island the longest… pee in the shower… be the best cook ; it made for some really funny and memorable conversations)
At the dessert course we thanked everyone for joining us; I also presented my husband with a “lordship” (yes I know the plot of land ‘scheme’ isn’t a real lordship, but he loves scotch, and I also gifted him a very nice bottle from the region ‘his land’ is on. I printed and framed the certificate and presented it with the bottle while joking about name changes, etc.)
It was a decadent but low key event filled with laughter, and utterly perfect.
I would suggest tying in a few touches that are meaningful to you both, and not worrying too much about what people think. They are there to celebrate and support you, and you don’t owe them a show. Make the event what you want!
Post # 7
I think your event sounds lovely. If this is what you want to do, then it’s the perfect plan. Don’t worry about other people. This is one day of your life that is solely, 100% about you and your husband.