Post # 1
Fiance is American and I’m Ukrainian. So we’re going to have mostly American guests, but a very few Ukrainian guests from my side of the family. I am worried about the Ukrainian minority feeling comfortable. When the guests are split half and half, you can make the whole wedding an even mix of both cultures (food, music, traditions, etc.) But with 10-15 Ukrainian guests out of 75-85 people, it seems unwarranted to do the wedding half-Ukrainian – there will be barely anyone to participate in the Ukrainian stuff!
So I am really lost about this. My parents keep saying how they’re going to feel like strangers at my “American” wedding. But what can I do if the vast majority of guests is, in fact, American? Has anyone been to a wedding like this? How did it work out?
Post # 3
What kind of Ukranian traditions are there?
I always like to learn new cultures and traditions at weddings, so I’d be all for the Ukranian stuff even if only a small portion of the guests will know the tradition coming in to it. They will all know it by the end!
Post # 4
The way I would look at it is the wedding _is_ half-Ukrainian – you are and he is not, that’s half. I would include all the Ukrainian stuff you want, people will want to know about your culture. The key will be to make sure that very little of the food is too much for the Americans (and your Fiance will have to judge what that means for his family), that any stuff that requires lots of participation is likely to get it (I’m thinking of how badly a Jewish Hora would go if only 4 people were willing to lift chairs), and that traditions are explained so that people get their meaning but also know how to react (solemnly, clapping, participating,…). Find out what bits are especially meaningful to your parents so they feel like part of things, and explain the meaningful American stuff to them, too. This sounds like so much fun!
Post # 5
My hubby is Indian (got married in India four months ago) and our American wedding is in a month. I was the only American at my own wedding in India. (Ceremony wasn’t even in English so I had no clue what was going on! lol Music and food was all Indian..but I loved it! It was perfect the way it was.
For our American wedding we will have (out of 65 people) about 15 Indians (all friends, no family-they are all in India). We are having one Indian entree, one Indian appetizer and about 1/5 music will be Indian dance tunes. Can you do something like that? Our caterer was awesome in helping us incorporate some Indian foods so that everybody will be pleased. Good luck!