Post # 1
So…my Matron of Honor. She is one of my best friends and I have known her for over 10 years. Naturally, I chose her to stand with my sister as one of my Maid/Matron of Honor. I just had my bachelorette party last weekend, well…not really…because she ended up ruining it. She decided to bring in beef that she was having with another bridesmaid (who actually chose to be the bigger person and attempted to ignore Maid/Matron of Honor the entire night), she made the ENTIRE night about herself (how she JUST got married and her and HER HUSBAND and at HER wedding and during HER bachelorette party)…and as we were about to go out, I went to find her and she was on the phone talking shit about me…to her husband.
All of this ended up opening a serious can of worms and it made me realize that she actually has NEVER been happy for me from the beginning and I guess I was ignoring it? She wasn’t really that excited when I got engaged, or when I chose my venue or my dress or when my fiance and I decided it’d be best for us to buy a house. In fact, every big decision I shared with her (cause yknow…she’s my BFF), she went behind my back and talked about me.
I did end up confronting her about it and all she could say was “I’m sorry, I don’t know what you want me to say.” I guess what I’m asking is…do you know anyone that has been through this before too? What’s your advice on handling her from now on? Has anyone not spoken to their Maid/Matron of Honor after their wedding? My wedding is in 3 weeks, so my mom told me to be the bigger person and save face so don’t kick her out…but I guess an unbiased opinion would be great.
Post # 3
@miss_jess: How was your friendship before the wedding? Is it the dual weddings that caused jealousy from her?
What exactly was she saying to her husband about you?
I guess I would like to see the whole picture before giving advice?
Did she even say she was sorry for all the trash she spoke about you?
Post # 4
@LuvMySailor: Ah! I guess background info would be nice. Our friendship before the weddings were just fine AND even during her wedding…everything was great. After she got married, it really started to get a bit more visibly weird. When I walked in on her she was telling him how my bachelorette party was a waste of time, how I was a waste of time and money, how we’d probably go somewhere stupid cause I choose stupid places to go…or probably not go anywhere at all. That I was just an idiot for getting married around this time, again how it was a waste of her time, etc. etc.
Her apology to me was…verbatim (because the apology was over text AFTER we hung up -___-) “I’m sorry, I don’t know what to say but I’m sorry.”
Post # 5
@miss_jess: So you are a waste of time and a waste of her time? I’m sorry but she would be gone from my wedding and our friendship would be cooled off. I would not want to look at her in our wedding photos.
If it was such a waste she should have stayed home.
Post # 6
LOL what a bitch. Tell her to have a nice life and move on without her. You don’t need people–especially a best friend–who tells other people that you are a waste of time and money.
Post # 7
Dump her. Seriously. What a monster!
Post # 8
@miss_jess: I came to this realization about an ex-bridesmaid of mine. That she was never really interested in my life. I feel like she’d been trying to distance herself from me a long time and I just never got the hint. It makes me feel a little embarrassed, like I looked like a fool every time I would call her up to hang out. I wish I could go back in time and tell myself to let her go.
It’s a bit different than your situation, but I am no longer friends with that girl. I still think about her often and it still hurts. After 10 years of friendship, it’s hard to just let go of someone.
You don’t need that kind of negativity in your life. You deserve to be surrounded by peopel who actually care about you and want to be around you.
Post # 9
Thanks all. I tried to talk to her one more time to no avail – tons of excuses and really, I think she just thinks nothing of it. Oh well.