Post # 1
My soon to be husband says he is tired of Dallas and wants to move to corpus Christi next year. I love Dallas and was raised here. I’m very close with my family. I have really bad anxiety and panic attacks and being close to my family helps me knowing they understand and know what to do. My bf says that his job can transfer him to corpus Christi so he can be with his bff. He says that werwe not planning on moving back to Dallas if I don’t like it. That I should be able to move with him and know that it’s going to be ok. But how can he say that we still won’t move back if I give it a try and turns out I’m not happy there. I have a really good paying job that I love. I’m settled here, if Moving was important to him I would think he would have brought it up before we got serious. That’s the part that scares me is him saying that he’s not planning on moving back if we move to corpus Christi like not even if I’m unhappy there. I’m praying everyday that God helps him see how much I love it here with my family and job. IvI’ stopped eating and keep crying even though it’s next year, it’s the thought of everything that is making me sick.
Post # 2
I say this as someone who has moved to two different states for/with her husband. Moving is something that needs to be a joint decision and both people should be 100% on board.
It sounds like he is moving with or without you and doesn’t care about your happiness. Better to lose him than to sacrifice living near family, your mental health, and your job. No person is worth that.
Post # 3
Why would you want to marry someone that doesn’t care about how you feel? This is a bad start to a marriage.
Post # 4
Why are you marrying someone who doesn’t seem to like you or care about your feelints?
Post # 5
Didn’t you just post this yesterday? What happened to that thread?
Post # 6
You say ‘soon to be husband’ but are you even engaged? In your last lost you refer to him as your boyfriend.
It sounds like this guy is moving and staying in the new city whether you are there or not so do not uproot your life for a guy like that.
Post # 7
I’m in a similar situation as you. Started having some serious medical issues in the last six months and had to come back to my hometown (which is in a different state from where my bf lives) so my parents could help take care of me. Even as I get better, I still have depression and anxiety. My bf and I want to get engaged soon. I am really hoping he will be willing to try to find a job here and move here. He knows how I feel. I really hope that your guy understands you. Maybe try to continue to have these conversations and gently show him how much it means for you to be close to family. Wish you the very best.
Post # 8
I’m confused about why you’re double posting this. Regardless, you said in your other thread you’re extremely close to your family (you’d be moving 6 hours away), you’re the bread winner in the relationship, and he only wants to move because his best friend lives there.
Unless you left something out, you haven’t given any good reasons TO move except “because he wants to / says so”.
Post # 9
what advice are you looking for? I’m pretty sure you know what you need to do.
Post # 10
Do not go. Leaving your good job and everything you love because he wants to go where his friend is is ridiculous. He’s prioritising his bff over you. The fact that he wants to do this despite how upset it makes you, and even flat out says he wouldn’t move back of you tried it and hated it is very concerning! I think he should be your ex not your future husband. If he and his bff want to be together so bad the bff can move to Dallas.