Post # 1
My fiance and I went to different colleges and met through a mutual male friend. Now that were engaged the mutual male friend automatically thinks he deserves to be the best man in our wedding. While we both greatly appreciate him introducing us and want to recognize him in a special way neither of us want him in the bridal party. The friend can be very loud and inappropiate around others also he is horrible at reading in public, so were unsure of another position for him. Any suggestions on how to include in a unique special way?
Post # 3
Usher or lighting a special candle or make him a groomsman.
Post # 4
Could he be an usher? Ushers aren’t always one of the groomsmen. Or could he hand out the wedding programs or be a guestbook attendant?
He could also light candles (if you aren’t having your mothers do this). If you are having a Catholic ceremony, he could bring up the gifts.
If you don’t really want to give him a “job” you could still give him a boutoniere to designate him as “special” guest. You could also put a thank you in your wedding program (and on your wedding website if you have one) and a short description about the role he played in introducing you to each other. Your Fiance might also want to do a special toast thanking him for introducing you to him.
Post # 5
Yikes…talk about presumptuous! My then boyfriend and I had introduced friends of ours in college as well, and they got married. Though I was a bridesmaid in the wedding, I never expected to be or felt entitled to be in the wedding. It was definitely an honor, and I treated it that way.
Perhaps you can have this guy do a reading in the wedding or honor him somehow in the program? That’s what the couple did for me and my then boyfriend. I thought it was really sweet of them to mention us in the program, but certainly didn’t expect it!