(Closed) Advice on relationship with Bi-curious

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 47
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245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

It’s probably already mentioned so I’ll just leave this here: 

Bisexual is not bicurious. I am bisexual. I’ve never dated another woman and I’m not “curious” to sexually explore women. I’ve never had sex with another woman, I’m just attracted to them as I am men. The Fiance mentioned in this post may have never had any sexual relations with other men and why would that matter anyway?

I’m in a loving exclusive relationship with my Fiance and me being attracted to women doesn’t change our relationship. We also have NO desire to envolve any other women in our relationship.  This isn’t to dismiss people with open relationships, we are extremely jealous people and would both be very hurt if we had an open relationship. 

A common misconception of bisexuality is that it’s synonymous with perversion and sex with everyone. This is not the case. It is mearly attraction to more than one sex/gender.  

Just wanted to clear some things up. I used to be a representive of an LGBTQIAOP club in college so feel free to ask any questions. 

Edit: I also want to dispel the myth that there are few “true” bisexual men. This is simply not true and is a current misconception that is predominant in even the LGBT community. We are not always so knowledgible of others’ sexuality. I myself am not an expert, however I spent years studying sex and gender at my university so I believe I can either answer your questions or direct you to a source that can. 

Post # 48
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750 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

 

Post # 49
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264 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Lake Taghkanic State Park

I think it’s your friend that has the issue not him.

If your friend is having these thoughts at all she probably should not marry him! If she was really confident that he was the one and was mature enough to agree to marry him, and if she really loved him, his sexual orientation wouldn’t matter.

If she’s hesitating just because of somthing as trivial as that her commitment level is probably not as high as it should be for such a serious relationship.

Post # 52
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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@mypinkshoes:  I’m bi, but I’ve been with quite a few women before my Fiance (male). I wouldn’t say I’ve ever “craved” vagina, BUT I don’t know what it would be like if I never experienced being with a woman.

 

I have a friend who is divorcing her husband after years and years, and one reason is because she is bi and wants to experience being with a woman.

 

Ofcourse, everything is different from person to person, but for me I’ve always been satisfied during my 6 year relationship with Fiance, and I’m not worried at all that I’ll stray because of my sexuality. However, I do think it can be tough for someone who is bi, but has only been with a man or woman because they may always wonder what it would be like with the other gender

Update- o wow, just realised this post is super old

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