(Closed) Advice on Sister in Law

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@mdvorak29:  What else is happening at 8am? Are you paying to have the girl’s hair and makeup done?

What are the plans to fill the 5 hrs between 8 am and 1pm (when you have to be at the church)?

My wedding was at 3:30 and I had all my BMs with me to start getting ready at 9:30am because that’s the time that hair and makeup needed to start for everyone to get done and dressed in time before the ceremony.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@mdvorak29:  Then I’d just tell her that due to getting eveyrone’s hair done you have to start at 8am.

Can you Fiance talk to her as well and let her know that she needs to be on time?

You aren’t being bridezilla, you are paying for her to get her hair done so she needs to be there when you tell her to.

 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@mdvorak29:  Oooh, she sounds like a pain. As does the Boyfriend or Best Friend…get your stuff together, folks! I’d say that you have every right to be firm on the time, esp w/ hair appointments. It sounds like Fiance is backing you on this, so keep your chin up.

I can definitely see us in the same situation (Mr.ND doesn’t have sibs, but close cousins that are always late) and I feel I may need to invest in a cattle prodder. LOL. Just do what you can, but don’t stress on the big day…she’s the one that will look dumb if she misses an appointment or is running around with her head cut off. On the day of, you can just tell her that you’ve got other things going on (like, ya know, getting married) and she needs to figure out her problems herself. 

Post # 9
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5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

Hey we’re date twins! 😀 Our weddings are coming up fast! 

Post # 11
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2539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

First…Congrats on your wedding being so close!!!!!! Secondly….you Future Sister-In-Law is being ridic…but with the wedding being so close, you should pick and chose your battles. She doesnt want to come? Fine…she better have her hair done and be picture ready whenshe gets there. And reimburse you for the money you all ready spent.

You dont want her to be there if she doesnt want, her negative energy will mess up your morning! Have a happy wedding day!!!

 

Post # 12
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5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

@mdvorak29:  Haha yeah I know how you feel!! I still have a bunch of last minute things to do! Plus, our wedding is 500km from where we live, so we’re planning on heading to the location on wednesday next week so we can finalize things! It’s been very busy lately lol!

Post # 13
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3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

No, you’re NOT being a bridezilla. I agree with PPs that you should just reiterate that she needs to be there by 8am to get her hair and make up done. I also agree with PP that you don’t want a pouty/bratty bm there raining on your parade so if she really doesn’t want to be there, maybe you should ask her to not be in the wedding at all if she can’t fulfill her duties.

I had a similar situation with my SIL, I had my Fiance deal with her. When I suggested that she just not be in the wedding he got the message loud and clear and talked to her about it. She was better….but I still wouldn’t have called her a team player. LOL.

Post # 14
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685 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Um, she needs to not be a bia.  That is the time that she has to be there.  The end.  She shouldn’t be trying to fight it.  Like you said, this day isn’t about her, and if she doesn’t want to come at that time, then maybe she should do her own hair and makeup.

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