(Closed) Advice on telling my boss

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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7405 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

There is no way I could have hid my pregnancy for 4-5 months.  Some women just pop- and it sounds like you are one of them.  I had to fess up at 12 weeks.  What are their policies on maternity leave etc?

Post # 5
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204 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Eep! We’re not even trying yet, and this is already what I dread the most. I’m in an industry that people still tend to be career focused and only reluctantly “family friendly.”. I’m interested to see the responses.

Post # 6
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7405 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I am super fortunate to have a wonderful woman boss who had 3 kids of her own- so she gets it, so I don’t know what to tell you!  Are you going to go back to work for sure after the baby?  How long would you like to be off after delivery if you could choose?  How is coverage handled at your work when someone takes a planned leave of absence?

 

Post # 7
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1513 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

i work in an insanely baby-friendly company and am about 3 years out from having kids so i haven’t really thought about this, but yeah, i guess sometimes your body does the telling for you!!

i believe my company has a loose policy of 3 months notice for maternity leave, recognizing that not everyone feels comfortable sharing at 12 weeks. you can inquire with HR about what the policy is there. Asking about the policy is not an admission of pregnant-ness. Just being an informed employee, right? 😉

Then, regardless of what the rumor mill says, at least you won’t be forced to tell them until you are ready. and i am pretty sure legally they can’t ask?

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’d say to tell them when you tell everyone else…that way you have more time to figure out a plan and give people time to figure out what they are going to do without you!

Post # 10
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868 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@roxy821:  are you worried about losing your job? Or people treating you differently because you made the choice to get pregnant?  If you’re worried about losing your job I would contact HR right before you tell your boss.  It is unacceptable to be let go because of a temporary medical “situation”.  If you’re worried about being treated differently, you might want to tell your boss in a confident manner and let her know that you don’t intend for the pregnancy to take away from your work at all and you’re still looking forward to growing with the company.

I’m sorry you’re having to stress about this:(

Post # 11
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1660 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I told my boss about my miscarriage in February because I kept having to miss work to get labs, etc. He was way more sympathetic about it than I anticipated and said that while he was sorry about my mc, he was happy to hear we were TTC. He told me to “give him a heads up” as soon as possible when I got pregnant again so that he could plan and hire a backup. I haven’t said anything, because I’m not even 5 weeks yet, but I’ll probably tell him between 8-12 weeks.

I’d just come out and say that you’re expecting and tell her your plans re: how much leave you want to take, desire to stay with the company afterwards, etc.

Good luck!

Post # 12
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5572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I told my boss about my pregnancy last week and I was also really anxious about it. I feel like I can’t really hide it either and I wanted to be able to tell her first just out of respect. She took it really well and was very excited for us! I think that you’ll feel a lot better after you’ve told them, it was like a weight was lifted off of my shoulders!

Post # 13
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1513 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@roxy821:  yikes! that sucks that you ha to deal with rumors from grown adults. sounds like telling sooner might be better then? MRSLMA had a good approach!

congratulations by the way!! regardless of this stress, you’re going to be a mommy!!

Post # 15
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9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I didnt tell my boss until I was 18 weeks.. I was very nervous because its small company and I didnt know how they would react. But luckily they have been okay about it, I dont get paid for my maternity leave or anything but atleast I know my job will be waiting for me when I get back and I’ve taken time off for all my doctors appointments and never had any issues about it

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