- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
Okay… to make a long story somewhat short, I have never really liked my SO’s best friend’s wife. We used to hang out with them a lot and I was always nice. I don’t like drama (and she is ALL drama), and I’m good at ignoring annoying behavior, so even though I didn’t really like her, we all still had a good time hanging out together.
She and I had a falling-out after she spread some really awful lies about me, and now we don’t talk. She’s also awful to her husband. He has come to our house many times asking for advice because he has no idea how to handle her. She is terrible to him.
Anyway, SO and his best friend planned a trip this weekend. This happens to be a weekend that my daughter is with her father, so my SO really wants me to come with them. The problem is that the wife is going, too, and we still aren’t talking.
Both my SO and his best friend have approached me asking me to talk to her and patch things up so this weekend won’t be awkward. I have told them both that I am perfectly capable of being a nice person and having a good time, and that the one they should be worried about is her, because she’s the one likely to start drama. For some reason, they seem to think I’m the problem here.
They want me to talk to her so she can apologize to me. I asked her husband if she even knew what she was apologizing for, and he said no, but he wants her to do it, so she’s willing to do it. I told him I don’t want a meaningless apology, and I’d rather we just let the past blow over and have a good time this weekend. I don’t see why his wife and I need to have a heart-to-heart trying to salvage a relationship that never existed. It’s just not that big a deal to me. I don’t want her apology, or her friendship, or anything like that. I just want to have a nice weekend without any of her drama. But they still seem to think I’m the one with the problem.
Advice, bees? How should I handle this?