- 10 years ago
- Wedding: August 2008
So we’re tying up some loose ends from our August wedding and I have one issue that is troubling me. We asked a family friend to do the ceremony (who is a judge by profession). We never discussed payment ahead of time, and had no rehearsal dinner (so no gifts were handed out). I thought/ think that he might not have expected payment, but feel bad I never confirmed it. We were supposed to have a sit down planning of the ceremony, but short version is things happened and we didn’t, we just had a 5 minute ceremony at his courthouse, with our parents in attendance.
So what do I do? They have been friends for a long time and last thing I want to do is somehow upset them. There are a couple options being thrown around – but I can’t figure out which is best.
buy them a fruit basket for home delivery – with a nice thank you card
call them up, ask if they want payment and if not, take them out to dinner
send them an american express gift card with a thank you note.
For some reason, prior to the wedding I was figuring I’d give them a restaurant gift card, and that would be it. But they gave us that, and now I’m just completely at a loss if that was even the right choice.
What would you do?