- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
Just looking for a little advice on my Christmas party situation 🙂
So there’s this big annual Christmas party that is thrown every year by one of the auto body shops in town. I work in the insurance industry and they always invite the local agencies. For the past few years I’ve worked for an agent who wasn’t very social so he never wanted to go. I’ve never gone either because I didn’t want to go and not know anyone. I moved to a new agency this year and everyone here is going to the party and they say it’s a blast.
The party is being held in one of the most beautiful buildings in our area. It looks like an old castle. We looked into it when we were planning our wedding, but it was way too expensive. They are having a catered meal and an open bar and there will be dancing. It sounds so glamorous! I am at the point in my pregnancy where I feel like I have a lot of my energy back so I’d really love to go and dance the night away while I can. I also feel like I’ve lived in sweatpants for the last few months and I so want to get dolled up and go out.
The problem is that of course this party falls on the one weekend that DH’s father and grandfather are going hunting. DH hasn’t said outright that he plans to go hunting instead of taking me to the party but I know it’s what he wants to do. He said the only reason he wants to go hunting is because to get a deer permit you are put in this lottery so it wasn’t very likely for him and his grandpa and his dad to all get theirs this year. Also after you get one you likely won’t get one for a few years. I completely understand this and I feel bad even asking him to skip the hunting trip 🙁
- I could go to the party by myself but I think I would feel a bit lonely with all the other couples there.
- I could take a friend, but I don’t know if that would look weird to others or even be considered rude since the invitation is for me and my spouse.
- I could tell DH I would really like to go and would consider it my Christmas gift, and he probably would do it since he feels a bit guilty about spending so much money on himself this Christmas (damned PS4) but I don’t want to be the kind of wife who uses guilt to get what she wants.
- I could also just skip this year, but I’m afraid it might be the last year for a while that I feel this good. I don’t know what life with a 7 month old will be like, but I feel like I might be exhausted and won’t get to stay out as late.
What would you do in this situation?