(Closed) Advice on what to do with 11 yr old flower girl

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
13 posts

We are having an 11 gr old in my daughters wedding as a junior’s bridesmaid….she is wearing a color similar to moh…..shell carry flowers instead of petals. The flower hires are doing ribbon wands with jingle bells…..

Post # 4
972 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My flower girl was 11.  She is a daughter of a good friend (I spent Thanksgiving and Christmas with her and her children for years after I moved here).  She practically begged, and didn’t care that she was twice the “normal” age.

She had never been a flowergirl and was super excited and honored.  She walked ahead of me and my dad, throwing petals.  She also took it upon herself to help where she could before the ceremony and such.

She’s just beeming in all the pictures. 🙂

Post # 5
191 posts
Blushing bee

She could just carry a small bouquet. it seems like she wants to be included, and this would be a good way.

Post # 6
11506 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I had two junior bridesmaids that were 11 and 13.  They dressed in the same fabric as the bridesmaids but in a slightly different style dress with some ivory accents.  They carried slightly smaller bouquets than the bridesmaids, whose bouquets were slightly smaller than those carried by my two matrons of honor.

Post # 7
418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

My Junior Bridesmaids will be 8, 10, 11 and 12 by our wedding date. I’m going to put them in a contrasting color to the bridesmaids (The Bridesmaid or Best Man in Regency purple, the Jr. BMs in lavendar) and they’ll hold small bouquets. I agree with someone previously that all they really want to do is be INCLUDED. We figured out that this would be their way. Then the 2 oldest will man the guest book at the reception while the 2 younger ones will pass out favors. They’re COMPLETELY happy. LOL

Post # 8
1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Ms.BlueEyesDC  if she wants to be a flower girl let her take on the role. who really says they have to be little? 


Post # 9
1602 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I once coordinated a wedding where the ‘flower girl’ was 22. lol – she had so much fun it was hilarious. I think its more fun when they can be conscious of the actual event that is happening around them. 11 isnt ‘too’ old – it’ll be adorable and sweet.

And she will stand still for the ceremony…which is AMAZING!

Post # 10
3092 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My jr. bridesmaid in title is the flower girl in action.  She also really wanted to be the flower girl.  We’re doing a rose ceremony so she will be carrying an open basket full of roses.

Post # 11
2285 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

Let the girl throw petals if she really wants to. What’s the harm? No one will care that she is 11.

Post # 12
1311 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My Fiance has a 10 year old daughter and I already find her to be more of the age fit for a Junior Bridesmaid. She will wear the same colours as the Bridesmaids (just different style of dress) and have a bit smaller bouquet….. but also have her hair and make up done 🙂

Post # 13
960 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Ms.BlueEyesDC  She can throw petals or… my favorite carry something like this, even with her being older the staff might be really cool and she might enjoy it. 

But why not ask her what she wants? Throw petals, carry a staff, a bouqet, a wand… whatever 🙂 I just love the staff because I think its AWESOME — but the Mother of my Flowergirl said no as she thought it was dangerous for her daughter… Undecided

Post # 14
839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I agree with PPs that she could be a jr. bridesmaid. I’m kind of in the same situation. My 8 year old cousin wants to be my flower girl and I WANT her to be my flower girl. I’m also having my SO’s 4 year old niece as a flower girl. My cousin is older, so she’ll be wearing the same flower girl outfit as my SO’s niece, but she will carry the rings instead of throwing flowers. That way she still feels like a flower girl! 

Post # 15
364 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

She is probably more junior bridemaid age, but if she wants to be a flower girl, then why not? Have her wear a dress that is similar to the bridesmaids (but age appropriate), instead of a typical fluffy flower girl dress. She can stand up at the end of the line of bridesmaids, and process out with everyone at the end. It will be adorable!

Post # 16
73 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

if you want a blanket of petals then have her throw them but she does have the maturity to do other things, so whatever your vision is she can accommodate it, being 11 at least she won’t be running back done the aisle screaming

good luck

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