- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
To start things off I was with my first husband since I was 16, dated for 6 years and married for 6 years. After several times of being cheated on I finally got the courage to leave him and file for divorce (I hated the thought of divorce) but since I was only 28 I knew now was the time BEFORE we had children and things got alot more complicated.
Since then I have met my soulmate and the most loving man and were getting married in two weeks! We understand each other, been through alot with our families (both of our dads have passed away of cancer in the past 4 years) and I went to school with him most of my life. He’s never been married and has no children just to throw that out there. So things have been great the past 1 1/2 and as time got closer my mother (my only parent left) has been acting very jealous. We decided since both of our mom’s are on their own, there is no way either one was going to pay for our wedding. I picked up a second job on the weekend the past year and my Fiance picked up several OT shifts and like I said since neither one of us has any children and no major debt we knew we would be ok, just send our money wisely.
The past several months my mother has made comments about this being my second wedding and I shouldn’t have a bridal shower (btw I never had one with my first marriage), that I’m only marrying for money (also btw I make just as much as my FI) I just work hard for what I have and have always been that way, I don’t mind working 6-7 days a week because I would rather do that in advance then to take out loans. Also my mother says since I don’t support her $ wise anymore that I’m useless to her. And what she means by that is since I work so much I should buy her things and spend money on her. Since my dad passed away I did buy things for her and make sure she was ok but I’m saving money now for my wedding! Hello…..
She won’t return my calls, has blocked my text message and has told my siblings that she is not coming to my wedding. My 20 year old brother is walking me down the asile and my sister is my maid of honor, they have both tried talking to her but get nowhere. I don’t know what to do if she doesn’t show as far as who I would have to light the candles for the unity candle with my FI’s mom? Also I have NO other family, no grandparents, no nothing. I just don’t know how to take this and what to do.