Post # 1
Hi, my boyfriend and I have been together for three years. This past February, we went to a Kay’s and chose an engagement ring for us. We have been engaged since February 8th. The problem is… we are both 19 and our parents don’t know. I’m in college and work and he works all the time to be able to live. We have been looking at renting a house next summer.
Lately, I have been feeling guilty for my family not knowing. The ring has been on my finger since February, yet any time someone questions it, I say it is a promise ring. Yet… It is more than a promise ring to us. I mentioned it to my guy and he understands but thinks we should come out and tell my family. I want it to act as if we aren’t engaged and he is asking for permission from my dad.
How do we go about bringing this up to my family? Advice, please?
Post # 2
Why are you keeping this a secret?
I don’t think acting like you aren’t engaged and your fiancé asking for permission is a good idea. It sounds like a great way to start trouble.
The fact of the matter is that you’re engaged and you’ll likely stay that way whether your parents and family like it or not. Tell your parents and family, but don’t try to keep anymore secrets or act like it happened the day before or anything like that. Just tell them the facts.
I think taking them out for or preparing a nice brunch or dinner for them would be a great way to tell them.
Post # 3
I really don’t think it’s a good sign in a relationship that you feel the need to hide big things from those you love. You shouldn’t be ashamed of being engaged, but excited. If you are truly ready to get married, you should be able to stand up to those that don’t suport that idea with the help of your FI.