* advice* please! Desperate and sick of waiting for a proposal.

posted 6 months ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Honestly, I would drop it until the trip you are both taking, just stop bring it up and let him plan you a nice surprise. He’s clearly motivated to propose because he’s brought the ring and has already put thought into when he’s going to ask you. You just have to be patient for 8 weeks and let him get excited to propose without you railroading him about it for a bit. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee

I got into a similar fight with my fiancé weeks before he proposed. He just wanted it to be a surprise and wanted me to stop asking. Let it be for a bit and when the times right you’ll both be happy

Post # 5
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Helper bee

I don’t agree with the advice to shut up and sit pretty while he gets to propose on his and his terms only. At this point, the proposal is basically the decision to get married – your input and your feelings are equally important. Are his plans worth making you feel uncertain and hurt? Can’t he change his plans to take into account your explicit desires?

Is it a partnership or not?

Post # 6
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Helper bee

Given that you’ve only been together a year and he bought the ring a month ago, I think you need to slow your roll and give him some time. I typically don’t take this approach with waiting bees but you’re moving really fast here. Just be patient.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

I think you need to be patient and chill out, you’ve only been together a little over a year and he’s bought the ring and told you he will propose so he’s not dragging his heels. What’s a few more months really in the grand scheme of things? If you keep pushing and pushing it’s going to ruin a great occasion and will likely cause problems in your relationship. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - Turkey

In your mind consider you’re already engaged and your ring is being resized at a very slow shop haha. Other than that, I can’t see why you’d worry about it that much.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

I agree with whitecollarbee! I hear what you’re saying about age. At the same time he has bought a ring which is a massive step, so it sounds like he is waiting for a perfect moment to propose..this IS the story that you’ll be telling people for the rest of your lives and there is a lot of pressure on men to get it right. 

 

Definitely slow down on asking about it, because you might end up feeling like he only proposed because you rushed him into it and that would be one of the worst feelings. It could almost ruin the moment don’t you think? Sounds like he wants to catch you off guard and REALLY surprise you x

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

He’s already planning to propose on the trip, relax and let him have his time to plan it out. Some guys are want to make it special, it sounds like that’s what he is doing.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think you are being too pushy and he taking away all the effort he is taking into planning the proposal, he doesn’t want you to know when it will happen and you obviously expect it om holidays so he wont do it on holidays. You need to let go of control and let him do his thing.  I think you are hurting his feelings and causing drama in the relationship and it will hurt you and how he views you right now. 

Happy new year

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

sickofwaiting1989 :  I totally simpathise, I’m notoriously impatient! I think the best thing to do in way of encouraging him into proposing on your trip is to precisely not encourage him! just leave it be and let him come to his own conclusions x

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