(Closed) Advice please: FMIL bought me a bracelet as my "something new"…

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 3
78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Wear it as an anklet maybe?  You’ll still be wearing it so she can’t get offended and it will be hidden;)  I think it’s pretty but I wouldn’t want to wear something so obviously from a specific brand at my wedding unless it was hidden.  The whole something new tradition is sort of a good luck charm thing anyway so it doesn’t matter if anyone can see it.  It was super sweet of her to do that for you though, just kinda awkward if it doesn’t fit with your look.

Post # 4
496 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013


I think its very sweet and special of you Future Mother-In-Law to get that for you. she is trying to participate in the wedding day in a nice way. as far as forcing youto wear it… not sure i would go that far. maybe its just the way you wrote it, and of course its hard to judge tone from text, but you come of as ungrateful… 

I dont think the bracelet is too casual, its clasic and classy. BUt if you are very very particular about a look that you are going for and want no business wearing it, you could always wrap it around your boquet stems or something.. 


Post # 5
458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I think it’s lovely, but why not compromise and wear it to the reception only?  Then you can have the wedding and take formal pics without it (if you’re afraid it’s too casual, which maybe it is) but plenty of women “dress down” a bit for their receptions.  You could wear it then and it would still show up in plenty of pics.  

Post # 7
424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

What is your dress like? I don’t think it’s too casual, but I don’t know your style. 

She was obviously just trying to do something nice and be involved. Have you talked to your Fiance about it? He can probably give you some insight on how she would handle it if you decided to not wear it. 

You could tie it to your bouquet, though!

Post # 9
3380 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@sailor_girl:  +1

I’m sure she didn’t mean to force you to wear it on your wedding day…but she still kind of is. I mean, how do you *nicely* tell your Future Mother-In-Law you won’t be wearing it? I’m sure that wasnt her intention, but it’s still the outcome: you now feeling obligated.


Post # 10
88 posts
Worker bee

Aw I love it! I have the same bracelet though so maybe i’m biased 😉 I think you should wear it..Tifffany’s is pure class and you can’t go wrong. Plus since it has the heart that makes it such a nice touch for a wedding.

You know with mine I like to ‘stack’ wear it. So I wear it along with my links sweetie bracelet and sometimes a pearl bracelet too. This bracelet works well in that way I think. So if you had something else, a tennis bracelet style or a pearl bracelet that you wanted to wear as well, I think it would look great WITH your Tiffany.

You know what else? You say you are wearing it daily? Perhaps you could get it cleaned up (which T do for free) and put it away until your wedding? It might make it feel newer and less ‘everyday’ and you might start to miss it too and look forward to getting it out to wear for the wedding.

Good luck!


Post # 12
583 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My mother got me a really tacky anklet to wear as my something new.  Be grateful!  LOL

As long as you are wearing it often around her until the wedding, I would just produce another bracelet and tell her that although you LOVE your new bracelet, you want to wear this more formal one for the wedding.

Post # 14
5986 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I  like the idea of wrapping it around your flowers or finding some way of still incorporating it into your wedding. DH got me a bracelet as my something new and it’s extremely casual and didn’t match my look at all. I wore it because I decided I would rather wear something he got me over some random jewelry that had no meaning. 

Post # 15
158 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Weddings are about family…she wants to be involved. I would wear it. No rules saying you have to wear it the entire day – maybe just for the ceremony and then you can put on the bracelet you prefer? Might make her happy just to see it on you as you’re getting ready and throughout the ceremony. 

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