Post # 1
My FMIL surprised me with a Tiffany’s bracelet after a trip to NYC and told me it is my “something new” for my wedding. I am so grateful for the bracelet. It’s beautiful and wear it daily and I love my MIL but I am finding it kind of an imposition to insist that it is my “something new” without even asking me if I would like to wear that as wedding jewlery. I think it is a nice suggestion and I am considering it but I feel forced in to wearing it now.
It is pretty but I think it may be casual for the occasion. Here is a link to the bracelet:
Please let me know what you think.
A) Is it formal enough for a wedding or on the casual side?
B) Should I wear it?
C) If I choose not to, how do I approach this in the way that would be least hurtful? (e.g. don’t mention it and just don’t wear it day of, have a discussion about it).
I really appreciate any advice on the matter!
Post # 3
Wear it as an anklet maybe? You’ll still be wearing it so she can’t get offended and it will be hidden;) I think it’s pretty but I wouldn’t want to wear something so obviously from a specific brand at my wedding unless it was hidden. The whole something new tradition is sort of a good luck charm thing anyway so it doesn’t matter if anyone can see it. It was super sweet of her to do that for you though, just kinda awkward if it doesn’t fit with your look.
Post # 4
I think its very sweet and special of you FMIL to get that for you. she is trying to participate in the wedding day in a nice way. as far as forcing youto wear it… not sure i would go that far. maybe its just the way you wrote it, and of course its hard to judge tone from text, but you come of as ungrateful…
I dont think the bracelet is too casual, its clasic and classy. BUt if you are very very particular about a look that you are going for and want no business wearing it, you could always wrap it around your boquet stems or something..
Post # 5
I think it’s lovely, but why not compromise and wear it to the reception only? Then you can have the wedding and take formal pics without it (if you’re afraid it’s too casual, which maybe it is) but plenty of women “dress down” a bit for their receptions. You could wear it then and it would still show up in plenty of pics.
Post # 6
@sailor_girl: Good suggestion.
Post # 7
What is your dress like? I don’t think it’s too casual, but I don’t know your style.
She was obviously just trying to do something nice and be involved. Have you talked to your FI about it? He can probably give you some insight on how she would handle it if you decided to not wear it.
You could tie it to your bouquet, though!
Post # 8
@ErinBlue: Thanks so much ! This is a wonderful idea. I am just not sure how I would explain it to her cause she may still be offended. I can maybe explain I don’t want to wear any bracelet or find a pearl bracelet that fits with look better and explain that. I feel so bad cause it is so thoughtful and we are very close but this is just kind of awkward..
Post # 9
I’m sure she didn’t mean to force you to wear it on your wedding day…but she still kind of is. I mean, how do you *nicely* tell your FMIL you won’t be wearing it? I’m sure that wasnt her intention, but it’s still the outcome: you now feeling obligated.
Post # 10
Aw I love it! I have the same bracelet though so maybe i’m biased 😉 I think you should wear it..Tifffany’s is pure class and you can’t go wrong. Plus since it has the heart that makes it such a nice touch for a wedding.
You know with mine I like to ‘stack’ wear it. So I wear it along with my links sweetie bracelet and sometimes a pearl bracelet too. This bracelet works well in that way I think. So if you had something else, a tennis bracelet style or a pearl bracelet that you wanted to wear as well, I think it would look great WITH your Tiffany.
You know what else? You say you are wearing it daily? Perhaps you could get it cleaned up (which T do for free) and put it away until your wedding? It might make it feel newer and less ‘everyday’ and you might start to miss it too and look forward to getting it out to wear for the wedding.
Post # 11
@Kandiss16: I am very grateful for the gesture and wear the bracelet everyday but she keeps telling everyone I know it is my “something new” and I never really agreed to that. That is where my discomfort is. I want to have choice in my wedding jewellery. I was contemplating maybe something pearl as a bracelet or none maybe.
Post # 12
My mother got me a really tacky anklet to wear as my something new. Be grateful! LOL
As long as you are wearing it often around her until the wedding, I would just produce another bracelet and tell her that although you LOVE your new bracelet, you want to wear this more formal one for the wedding.
Post # 13
@badabing88: EXACTLY. Perfectly said.
I don’t think she had any intention of making me feel this way. She is the nicest lady in the world! I just think her good intention/gesture ended up making me feel like that in the end.
Post # 14
I like the idea of wrapping it around your flowers or finding some way of still incorporating it into your wedding. DH got me a bracelet as my something new and it’s extremely casual and didn’t match my look at all. I wore it because I decided I would rather wear something he got me over some random jewelry that had no meaning.
Post # 15
Weddings are about family…she wants to be involved. I would wear it. No rules saying you have to wear it the entire day – maybe just for the ceremony and then you can put on the bracelet you prefer? Might make her happy just to see it on you as you’re getting ready and throughout the ceremony.
Post # 16
@sailor_girl: I like this idea for sure! It has also sparked new ideas in my head lol. I can maybe wear it right when I get to the venue so she sees it is in my complete look. I then leave with FI to go take pictures alone for a couple of hours so I can take it off for that part. I can make sure to wear it for ceremony (where it will be really special and my hand is not the focus anyways) and then remove for reception where she will be dancing and partying and not notice!!!!!! Genius! Haha
I just need to make sure I don’t lose it!