(Closed) Advice please: FMIL bought me a bracelet as my "something new"…

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 77
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

@brideybean:  If you’re wearing a veil, I have the perfect solution!  Say the bracelet keeps catching on the veil, and you’re worried it will tear it.  This is a legitimate excuse because I actually wanted to wear a bracelet on my wedding day but was having this exact problem.  This would probably be the least hurtful way to get around it.

Also, do you even know for sure that she’s expecting you to wear it on your wedding day?  My bridesmaids gave me something new, something old, something borrowed, and something blue and they didn’t expect me to use those items on the actual wedding day.  Maybe she was giving you the bracelet in a similar capacity, just as a gift of love?

At the very least, you could wear the bracelet to the rehearsal dinner.  And if she’s there getting ready with you on the wedding day, you could leave it till then and see if she even notices you’re not wearing it.  If she does and comments on it, you can say you love it and wear it every day but thought it didn’t really match your dress.  I wouldn’t mention the word “casual” because it is an expensive bracelet and she might get offended.  Good luck!

Post # 78
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169 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@brideybean:  I think it’s pretty and you should just go ahead and wear it.  I think it’s a bracelet that can be dressed up or dressed down, depending on what you wear it with.  I think it would hurt her feelings if you didn’t wear it.

Post # 79
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Helper bee

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@brideybean:  I would honestly just wear it.  Having just gotten married, it’s amazing what seems like a big deal ahead of time and then you just don’t care the day of/realize you were blowing it out of proportion in your head.  I think it’s honestly way more important to have a good family relationship.  

Post # 80
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6351 posts
Bee Keeper

My Future Mother-In-Law is giving me a funny-looking piece of heirloom jewelry for the occasion. I’m going to rock that thing like crazy. It’s not, like, ridiculous looking, but I just wouldn’t have chosen it. But it’s hers and it means a lot and HELL YEAH I’M WEARING IT with PRIDE!

I suggest you do likewise 🙂

Post # 81
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3206 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@brideybean:  You shouldn’t stack the bracelet with a lot because it’s so dainty. Here is a photo from the Purse Forum. Stacking just the dainty bead bracelet with a thin chain would be gorgeous. I wouldn’t even add the bangle because the two dainty bracelets are elegant, and would fit in with your total look (pearls).

 

Post # 82
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3206 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

 

I usually wear the smallest bead bracelet and the medium size together with my watch, but I’ve switched it up recently. They are really simple and comfortable, and I’m sure you will get a lot of usage out of it after your wedding. I find the larger sizes are difficult to dress up, but the small dainty one perfect for more formal occasions. 

 

Post # 83
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Myabe have it wrapped around your bouquet? It’s definitely a cute bracelet, but too casual for most weddings.

 

Also, if you’ve been wearing it daily, then it’s not a true “something new”! Boom, instant out!

Post # 84
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109 posts
Blushing bee

Do you know what i’m starting to wonder…since this is getting more complicated…is to just go ahead and speak to your Mother and Mother in Law about it.

Next time you go for a fitting, for example? Maybe just say look guys, i’m torn. I adore the sentiment behind all this jewellery but it’s just turning out to be WAY more than I thought I would wear.

Say I don’t think I can wear bracelet and necklace and earrings so I will need to pick just two of them.

Getting them involved in this way might help them to feel involved in the decision making process and therefore more on board with your end decision, since they ‘helped’ you make it?

I’m just thinking for me this is probably what I would do at this stage.

Post # 85
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

try wrapping it around your bouquet 

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