(Closed) Advice Please: Husband / Wife Chore Chart.

posted 9 years ago in Home
Post # 32
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think that if I saw a chart, I’d get overwhelmed and everything would feel MORE like a chore.  But then, I HATE cleaning (especially vacuuming). Our method (has worked for the past 10 years) is similar to what @caszos said: pick the stuff you don’t mind being charge of & split evenly.  I love to cook…he doesn’t really know how. When growing up in my house, the basic rule was: whoever cooks doesn’t have to clean (note how I LOVE cooking & HATE cleaning).  He doesn’t mind vacuuming, so he does it.  I don’t mind cleaning the bathroom (I get some theraputic satisfaction from making the bathroom sparkle), so I do it…albeit, he has to remind me to do it, but I do it.  Laundry…usually he will start doing the whites (the only ones he doesn’t have questions about how to do) & I’ll want some other laundry done, too, so I’ll add in another load.  He’s better at putting things away, but I’m better at getting the groceries…basically, we pick what we’re better at & go with it.  Starting in August, he’ll be working from home, so he’ll probably do more cleaning up, but it’ll be up to him to let me know if he wants me to pick up the slack.  Maybe we’re just lucky that we don’t mind doing what the other one hates or doesn’t know how to do.  But it’s worked for us.

Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would kill my SO if he printed out a chore chart…. I’m the messier one of the two.  But I do all the cooking and he typically does all the dishes and takes the trash out.  General house cleaning is a split, he vacuums, I do the bathrooms.  He has to sort his laundry before I’ll put it in the wash, but we both tackle folding clothes.

So, it all works out.  If one person is slacking the other picks it up a little and visa versa.

Post # 34
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Mrs. Avocado JUST posted the other day about a website that organizes a fair chore chart based on how hard the chores are and how often they need to be done. Then they send everyone an email reminder so you don’t have to nag! I thought it was very cool. http://chorebuster.net/

Post # 35
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

We clean together on the weekends, a long time ago I let Darling Husband choose what tasks he wanted and he chose floors, windexing and dusting since he hates cleaning bathrooms and the kitchen. So we have our tasks and do it together. During the week, if one person cooks (it’s pretty even) the other will clean. And he runs out of boxers really fast (that reminds me we have to buy him some more) so he will usually initiate the laundry, but I will fold everything.

We sort of had a ‘chart’ in the beginning, b/c Darling Husband is slightly ADHD and it just works better for him if things are written down. So he made a list of his tasks so he could visualize it, but mine were never on there (since I went from doing everything to doing 1/2).

And really, the things we are in charge of, we are in charge of from every aspect. If we run out of scrubbing bubbles, I have to get it. I choose what scrub brushes and rags to use in the bathroom and kitchen. When we bought a new vacuum, he got to choose it b/c he does the floors. No one micromanages the other. It works out really well for us that way.

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We just talk about it.  usually i’ll say, i’m going to do this xxx task this week or date and he says okay i’ll do this on this day.

so far its worked out for us.  He mostly cooks and takes care of the garbage, etc.  I do laundry and clean. Groceries and cleaning bathroom is who ever has the time to do it.

Post # 37
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We both cook, walk the dog,  We do our own laundry. We also have someone come to our house onces a month and REALLY clean/dust/mop/sweep so when I do it the rest of the month it isn’t that big of a chore. I haven’t taken out the trash in two years and he has never cleaned the bathrooms so I guess that is a compromise. We both clean the kitchen, take care of the plants and veggies. It isn’t actually something we planned out-everything just works out I guess.

Post # 38
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

When we both worked full-time office jobs we had a chore night and a list of what needed doing. I’d do x and he’d do y, and we’d switch it up from week to week. I think if a chart is what gets the chores done, make a chart!

For us the main thing was that cleaning was once a week {aside from dishes} and it was always the same night, so no “surprise honey, we’re mopping the floors tonight!”

Post # 39
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I think what will be easier then the whole “clean up after yourself” (because this would work if my life were a perfect world lol) and the chart. Would be to discuss excatly what chores each person does & how often you do it.

For example, we have a strict “whoever cooks. the other cleans.” period. And I handle putting dishes out of the dishwasher & he does the trash (these are like our daily chores) then once a week he does lawn work & pool maint, and I sweep & mop the floors. When it comes to the bathrooms & dusting, we take turns every other week. We’ve divided our chores like this for years & it works. Just as long as the daily chore is done & the once a week chore is done at some point during the week span, we are gravy!

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