Post # 1
So this is my situation. My best friend of over 6 years has decided to be a D-bag and let me know via text that she doesnt want to be friends anymore.
There is a big back story to this but now im left with no maid-of-honor (I skipped bridesmaids btw).
I have a friend who I would ask but I feel like it would be super rude to ask her to step in and im slightly nervious/anxious she will say no or not want to do it.
I also told her the story about what happened and shes shocked and confused just as much as I am about the situation (my xfriend also had been ponning my bachlorette party off on my other friend – so she basically was doing everything anyways)
But if you were me or you were my other friend what would you do?
Post # 3
@Seafoamsarah: Your poll and post questions were different so I am going to just answer each seperately.
Poll Question: What would I do?
I would say F it and go solo. I would feel like it would like calling my other friend second best. I would feel like she would think she wasn’t “good enough” to be my MoH in the first rounds of picking, so now that I need her, she would be my “filler”. Another body to be in pictures. I would feel just awful about it and would feel like I wouldn’t want to hurt her feelings or offend her, so I would go solo.
Post Question: If I were you or your friend what would I do?
(Answered the first part above)
As for the second part, I would not feel like I assumed the me in the above post would. I would have understood that this girl was your best friend for 6 years, and since you were ONLY having a MoH, I could see why she would be your only choice. Obviously I want to be a part of your wedding (MoH or not) so I’ve been there for you. Now, however, since it turns out your other friend was a flake, I would feel happy that you consider me a good enough friend to ask to be your MoH.
So yup, I am sure that doesn’t help at all, but bride-me and non-bride-me are two very different people it seems.
Post # 4
@Seafoamsarah: If it was me, I would be honoured to be asked to be replacement Maid/Matron of Honor. She sounds like a good friend – she’s doing the bachelorette anyway, and has been there for your when you ex-friend dropped you.
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
I would definitely not wait around for your original Maid/Matron of Honor to come to her senses.
I’d ask the friend who was already doing all the work anyway. Why would she say no?
Post # 6
I think I will ask her but now I’m thinking of how I should do it ? Any awesome ideas ?
Post # 7
@Seafoamsarah: I would just take her out to lunch and tell her how much you appreciate her love and support. There’s no way around her being the second choice, but just make sure she knows that you don’t see her that way.