(Closed) Advice please. maid of honour drama!

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: what would you do
    ask your other friend to be your maid of honour : (26 votes)
    68 %
    wait for your "x" friend to talk to you : (1 votes)
    3 %
    say f it and go solo : (9 votes)
    24 %
    cry in the corner of your closet and hope your fiancé brings you ice cream : (2 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    156 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @Seafoamsarah:  Your poll and post questions were different so I am going to just answer each seperately.

    Poll Question: What would I do?
    I would say F it and go solo. I would feel like it would like calling my other friend second best. I would feel like she would think she wasn’t “good enough” to be my MoH in the first rounds of picking, so now that I need her, she would be my “filler”. Another body to be in pictures. I would feel just awful about it and would feel like I wouldn’t want to hurt her feelings or offend her, so I would go solo.

    Post Question: If I were you or your friend what would I do?
    (Answered the first part above)
    As for the second part, I would not feel like I assumed the me in the above post would. I would have understood that this girl was your best friend for 6 years, and since you were ONLY having a MoH, I could see why she would be your only choice. Obviously I want to be a part of your wedding (MoH or not) so I’ve been there for you. Now, however, since it turns out your other friend was a flake, I would feel happy that you consider me a good enough friend to ask to be your MoH.


    So yup, I am sure that doesn’t help at all, but bride-me and non-bride-me are two very different people it seems.

    Post # 4
    7673 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @Seafoamsarah:  If it was me, I would be honoured to be asked to be replacement Maid/Matron of Honor. She sounds like a good friend – she’s doing the bachelorette anyway, and has been there for your when you ex-friend dropped you.

    Ask her!

    Post # 5
    3025 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

    I would definitely not wait around for your original Maid/Matron of Honor to come to her senses.

    I’d ask the friend who was already doing all the work anyway. Why would she say no?

    Post # 7
    7560 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    @Seafoamsarah:  I would just take her out to lunch and tell her how much you appreciate her love and support. There’s no way around her being the second choice, but just make sure she knows that you don’t see her that way.

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