Post # 1
Hi Bees… I realize that this may be a longer post but I am seeking advice as to what to do with my upcoming wedding. My fiance is a full time student and we moved almost a year ago to a new state for him to pursue his masters. I left my teaching job and was offered a job in the new state. The “job” ending up being cut because of budget problems, leaving me unemployed. I have been subbing, but our wedding savings have been dwindling so we can stay afloat financially.
Yesterday (1/9) marked the five month mark to my wedding, and I can say that at this point, we can not pay for our wedding. We have already sent out save the dates, booked major vendors etc. We are thinking about how to seriously downsize and still get married, because we do not want to delay our wedding.
One of my ideas was to find a vacation home for rent and have a small ceremony/reception there (in Rhode Island). Has anyone else done this?
Any advice from the bees? This is literally tearing me apart and making wedding planning so unenjoyable. Any/all help and advice would be greatly appreciated.
Post # 3
If you rented a vacation home, how many people would be attending?
Post # 4
I had a similiar problem due to finances that were beyond my control. My entire wedding savings was depleted and we had to cancel our wedding at this gorgeous place. It definitely sucks, but Fiance and I are just happy to be married to each other soon.
You could do a small ceremony with a tight knit group of people then plan to go to a nice dinner somewhere afterwards.
I wish you the best of luck.
Post # 5
Whats your budget and how much of it do you still have to pay. People have found a way to have a wedding regardless of the budget so I’m sure you could pull something off if you are ready to do lots of DIY jobs
Post # 6
If you cancel/postpone would your vendors allow you to apply your deposits to a future date? That way maybe in a year or so if your situation has improved you can go back to your original plan?
ETA: I like Merelton‘s idea of having a very small wedding now, and if your vendors allow you to postpone a larger celebration for a future anniversary perhaps. Otherwise its possible the vendors can work with you to apply the deposits to a scaled-down wedding that will fit in your budget.
Post # 7
I’m sorry to hear that you may need to change your plans. If I were you, I’d plan a small ceremony followed by a dinner with very close family and friends, then revaluate where you are six months to a year down the road to throw yourselves a big reception/party. Maybe a 1 year anniversary party?!
Post # 8
@cott619: You could try to talk to your vendors and be honest with them. See if they can cut their services (3 hours of photo instead of 8) and offer you a discount.
I think renting a place sounds good and actually really fun.
I know it’s not exactly popular, but you could have a potluck reception and self-cater. You can get rid of non-essentials (flowers, decor) and keep it really simple.
I’m sorry your job fell through! This is a tough situation. I hope you can figure something else!