(Closed) Advice please, on including a bride’s guy friend who’s not a groomsman?

posted 9 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

I think the usher title is still appropriate. You are still dressed to match the wedding party, included in photos, (typically) given seating with or around the wedding party, attend the rehearsal, etc. Having him as an usher would allow you to include him in all aspects of your big day.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I don’t know how you feel about having a "bridesman," but that’s a possibility… he could dress like the groomsmen, but be on your side. Some of my friends have done this (for one couple, the bride’s brother was a "bridesman" and the groom’s female friend was a "groomsmaid"), and it’s worked out pretty well.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I was just going to suggest he stand on YOUR side. My friend’s Maid/Matron of Honor was really her Man of Honor. My Future Sister-In-Law is standing on my FI’s side, and at another friend’s wedding, the groom’s sister is standing on his side.

If not, an usher job is still great! Just include him in all the Bridal Party stuff so he doesn’t feel second class

We labeled them "Bride’s Attendants" and "Groom’s Attendants" on programs to avoid "bridesmen and groomsladies" and whatnot. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

I think you have a lot of options.  You could, as some of the ladies suggested, have your friend stand up on your side as a Bride’s Attendant or "Bridesman".  Or he could be an usher, we did that for my cousin (whom I’m really close with) as a way to include him.  I have a very close guy friend from college and I did a reading at his wedding.  He asked me because he wanted to include me in the ceremony, but since I barely knew his fiancee, I wasn’t going to be a bridesmaid.

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