Post # 1
I’m stuck in a difficult place and wondering if you can help.
My parents have been very supportive of us during the wedding planning process, no pressure, no input so we’ve been quite happy. The only thing my dad has asked for is for our wedding to take place on August 13th, 2017 (Sunday) vs. August 12, 2017 (Saturday – and also our preference) because based on the Chinese calendar, Sunday is the much better date. Since it’s his only ask, I’d really like to please him but we really wanted a Saturday wedding for the convenience of our guests.
I’m about to propose a compromise of signing the marriage papers on his prefered date to be “offically married”. But is it possible for us to still have a ceremony even though we’re already married? How would that work?
Any advice/input would be appreciated!
Post # 2
It sounds like you’d be signing the papers the day AFTER the ceremony, so I fail to see an issue. If he agrees to this compromise, your ceremony will take place on Saturday as you wish, then you’ll simply sign the papers the next day. (Though you probably can’t file them on a Sunday, if you’re in the U.S. – it would be dated Sunday, but paperwork wouldn’t go through until the offices opened on Monday.)
Post # 3
I see you tagged this as “Toronto” so I’m assuming you’re in Canada. Therefore, let me say, my advice is based on the laws here in Florida.
Here your official date of marriage is the date you file/sign the papers. For a variety a personal reasons we filed our papers on a different date than our ceremony as we wanted our “legal anniversay” to have a particular meaning…and then we had a ceremony afterwards. My uncle performed the ceremony and he is not ordained…..it was simply “symbolic” at that point anyway, so it didn’t matter. If clergy is performing your ceremony they may have issue with it, or the church so I would suggest asking them.
Post # 4
My FH and I are getting legally married earlier than our ceremony because our officiant can’t legally marry us in the state where our ceremony is taking place. We’re going down to the courthouse a week before our ceremony and reception and signing our paperwork and then having our wedding the next week with the officiant that we want doing the ceremony. It’s totally fine to do the paperwork and the partying on two seperate days! I’m actually glad we are doing it this way so no one has to worry about keeping track of everything on our big day!
Post # 5
Many thanks for all your input 🙂
We ended up booking for Aug 12th (Sat) and my dad has not been too disappointed….
Post # 6
Just whatever you do, please do not deceive your guests. If you are not getting legally married the same day as the ceremony, they should know that. Most people won’t care. But some people really do and would be very upset if they found out they were lied to.