- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
Hello dear bees 🙂 I always assumed my first started thread would be about a future engagement but I could really do with some advice/input/backup/perspective about a slightly awkward position I’ve been put into regarding a wedding invitation.
Firstly some backgroud, I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years and living with him for six months, we aren’t engaged though and obviously not married.
The wedding in question is an old schoolfriend’s of Boyfriend or Best Friend and her brother is also BF’s best friend (they’re all 26-29 so old friends). I’ve never met this girl (the bride).
A while ago I found out about the wedding and assumed that Boyfriend or Best Friend would be invited for sure but figured that I would not. I figured that if I were invited then it’d be as a nameless +1. This would have been cool, like I said I havn’t ever met the bride.
Then Boyfriend or Best Friend tells me that bride has requested my full name and I will definietly be recieving an invite. I was impressed but also really really excited haha.
According to Boyfriend or Best Friend the invites arrived sometime last week but evidently he forgot to actually say anything becausde I only found out today. He also RSVP’d yes for both of us without actually looking at the specifics of the invites.
Upon reading the invite I realise that he has been invited to the whole shebang, from 12, whereas I have only been invited to the evening reception from 7.
This means that I would have to travel to the venue 7 hours after my boyfriend catching a train and cab in an area I’ve never been to, arrive alone and hope that I find my Boyfriend or Best Friend quickly then tag along with him at an event he’s spent the rest of the day at.
I’m okay with couples not being invited to events together, and I’m okay with having evening only guests, I’m even okay with being a reserve guest but I just feel like this is a bit too much?
I *really* don’t want to go, but Boyfriend or Best Friend has already RSVP’d yes for both of us (though I don’t think a quick email to change that would be a massive inconvenience to anyone?), and he also really wants me to go so he can “show me off” to old school friends (I guess).
So my questions are – would you go? And can anyone help me explain to Boyfriend or Best Friend why I don’t want to go, why it could be considered rude?
Or if you would go – what’s your reasoning, am I just being way too sensitive and this is a complete non-faux pas?
Thank you for reading! Hopefully I havn’t waffled too much xx
ETA: I don’t think I made it very clear 🙂 I’m not invited to the *Reception* with food and cake cutting and speeches – I’m invited to the *Evening Reception* which is usually a disco and maybe some finger food. Not sure if this change anyone’s opinion.