(Closed) Advice pretty please

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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3805 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

It honestly sounds like he’s done. Stop begging him to be with you. Be with someone who wants to make an effort to talk to you. 

Post # 3
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483 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

He seems to have checked-out of the relationship. Better to move on and forget about him. If he does come back, do not go back to him. You both seem non-compatible for a LDR (which would be the case if he does come back).

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

It sounds like things are over, I’m sorry. All the little things turned into a big sign that you’re not compatible. I wouldn’t try to pursue the relationship now that it’s over. You deserve to be with someone who understands your needs, and has needs similar to yours.

 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Focus your energy on moving forward. It sounds like he lost interest pretty quickly, unfortunately. There is something better out there for you! 

Post # 6
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1936 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Up until your concern about the female friend you have NO right to dictate how much he texts, when he texts, etc. He was upfront abou tnot liking it so he probably humoured you during the beginning stages and eventually quit on that. That’s his choice. It sounds like you were getting upset and nagging him for not being a texter. If you want a texter, go find one.

As for applying for jobs. He has a life. AWAY from you. He doesn’t need to discuss these things with you, IMO – not after a short year together. He may have always had these plans. SOmetimes, that’s the way it goes. He MAY have been considering a future with you, but things changed and since you weren’t together allt hat long he doesn’t “owe” you anything.

I think you simply expected way too much out of a new and short relationship and didn’t factor in that he had other plans with his life before he even met you.

I think you need to accept this is over.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2026

When I was dating, I found that men who sent me a string of texts after the first date were really, really annoying ESPECIALLY when I asked for some time to think about whether or not I wanted a second date or not. Major turn down for me. Sometimes I need my alone time. Plus they come off as needy and stalkerish–every few minutes “What are you doing?” “Why aren’t you responding to me?” Nope. Just nope.

Time for you to move on.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper

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hawkbee5 :  Let’s just say this relationship ran it’s course.  It’s nothing you did wrong, it’s he’s not ready to be in a long term relationship anymore.

Post # 9
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6880 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

This relationship is over. Sorry Bee. You shouldn’t have to badger someone to be with you. 

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