Post # 1
so a little background, my SO and I had been together for about a year. We started out great and he said he loved me about 6 weeks in. Around fall things shifted it seemed. I thought maybe it was due to fall harvest since he’s a farmer. He had always said he’s not big on texting but he would communicate with me throughout the day and at night. We spent a lot of time together. The texts gradually got less and it took longer for him to respond if at all sometimes. He recently told me that he will purposely avoid my texts. Granted it’s after I send a string of texts. I feel like he compartmentalizes me. He never really includes me in his daily life but said he wanted a future with me. Recently I find out he applied for a job over an hour away and if he got he would get an apartment there for during the week. He never talked to me about this before he applied. The other thing that bothers me is that the last few months there has been a friend of his who is a female that he has been in somewhat regular contact with. I asked if he had feelings for her and he says as a friend but it doesn’t feel like that. This made me feel really insecure. We recently broke up due to me accusing him of cheating. I am so not proud of the way I acted after he asked for time and space. I tried asking for another chance and if we could start fresh etc. He said let it be for awhile. I asked what’s a while and he said I was starting to worry him. I asked if he even loved me still at all and he said not when I’m acting crazy. I asked if there is still a chance for us and he said wait and see I guess. I sent him a text yesterday apologizing for the way I acted and the things I did. I said that I care for him very much and I was sorry I didn’t respect his need for space and time. I said that I’m hoping that after some space we can talk and see where things stand. I said I just want the best for him and for him to be happy even if that means not with me. I said I hope we can talk even if it’s just to say goodbye. I said I understand if he can’t or doesn’t respond.
I am not going to contact him again. I am hoping he reaches out. Is there any hope???
Post # 2
It honestly sounds like he’s done. Stop begging him to be with you. Be with someone who wants to make an effort to talk to you.
Post # 3
He seems to have checked-out of the relationship. Better to move on and forget about him. If he does come back, do not go back to him. You both seem non-compatible for a LDR (which would be the case if he does come back).
Post # 4
It sounds like things are over, I’m sorry. All the little things turned into a big sign that you’re not compatible. I wouldn’t try to pursue the relationship now that it’s over. You deserve to be with someone who understands your needs, and has needs similar to yours.
Post # 5
Focus your energy on moving forward. It sounds like he lost interest pretty quickly, unfortunately. There is something better out there for you!
Post # 6
Up until your concern about the female friend you have NO right to dictate how much he texts, when he texts, etc. He was upfront abou tnot liking it so he probably humoured you during the beginning stages and eventually quit on that. That’s his choice. It sounds like you were getting upset and nagging him for not being a texter. If you want a texter, go find one.
As for applying for jobs. He has a life. AWAY from you. He doesn’t need to discuss these things with you, IMO – not after a short year together. He may have always had these plans. SOmetimes, that’s the way it goes. He MAY have been considering a future with you, but things changed and since you weren’t together allt hat long he doesn’t “owe” you anything.
I think you simply expected way too much out of a new and short relationship and didn’t factor in that he had other plans with his life before he even met you.
I think you need to accept this is over.
Post # 7
When I was dating, I found that men who sent me a string of texts after the first date were really, really annoying ESPECIALLY when I asked for some time to think about whether or not I wanted a second date or not. Major turn down for me. Sometimes I need my alone time. Plus they come off as needy and stalkerish–every few minutes “What are you doing?” “Why aren’t you responding to me?” Nope. Just nope.
Time for you to move on.
Post # 8
Let’s just say this relationship ran it’s course. It’s nothing you did wrong, it’s he’s not ready to be in a long term relationship anymore.
Post # 9
This relationship is over. Sorry Bee. You shouldn’t have to badger someone to be with you.