- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
I need some advice from any of you who have worked with different cultural expectations for weddings. I am American and our wedding is going to be in the States – my fiance is Irish (like from Ireland) and so is his entire family, his friends, groomsmen. We have now attended 2 irish weddings together and it’s clear that the expectations for how long wedding receptions run is VERY different there. I love how much fun and how celebratory the Irish weddings are, but I know our American guests, especially my parents’ older friends, won’t be able to last that long!! For example, the Irish weddings we have attended go something like this;
1:30 – 2:30 – Mass
3-5:30 – cocktail reception
5:30 – 9:00 – seated dinner and toasts
9 – 12 AM – band plays/dancing
12-2AM – disco/DJ immediately follows band for more dancing/late night food served
2-5 AM – younger guests continue the party at the hotel bar or in a set location.
That’s a long day! It’s awesome to see guests get so into it that they are dancing for hours and having a great time, but how can I incorporate that into a more traditional American Catholic timetable? I am thinking that by adding a break between mass and reception (for rest time for guests) and shortening dinner/toasts a bit, I could squeeze all the dancing to before 12, when our venue closes anyway. So it would be:
1:30-2:30 – Mass
5:30 – 6:30 cocktail hour
6:30-8:30 – toasts/dinner
11-12 – DJ hour? OR
8:30 – 11:30 band and then have “late-night” music and food at the hotel where everyonei s staying for those who want to partake ….
I think my biggest “worry” right now is that my FI’s family will think our wedding isn’t “fun” because it isnt’ a late night party. Has anyone dealt with this before or tried to fit the longer Irish wedding model into a shorter time frame? Thanks much for any advice!!!