(Closed) Advice: Should I ask 1 of FI’s 3 sisters to be BM?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1253 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would personally choose all or none. Thats what I did, I have 2 of FI’s sisters as bm’s and two friends in my wedding party.

Post # 4
5778 posts
Bee Keeper

I’d do all or none too. Why not head off potential headaches and hurt feelings?

Post # 5
576 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Unless you are obviously closer to one of them, you should ask all or none. Don’t do it just a for the token gesture (aka bridging the families). They’ll understand you have other close friends. Just include them in all your wedding events (shower, rehersal, etc)

Post # 6
7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would do all or none even if you are obviously closer to one of them. Darling Husband has 3 sisters – a twin (who lived with us for a little while and Im very close to) and 2 older sisters who are 7 and 8 years older than I am. I initially only asked his twin sister because I wanted to have a small bridal party. At first it seemed fine but then my Mother-In-Law went crazy that his other 2 sisters were not asked. I dont know whether or not his sisters were offended but my Mother-In-Law was offended for them. It was not a good situation. Avoid drama!!

Post # 7
2788 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

All or none. 

@PitBulLover: Wow, I would have thought the same thing, that since they were older, they wouldn’t have been offended.  Yikes!

Post # 8
3620 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

All or none… I have 3 brothers and Darling Husband has 2 sisters. We chose to do none… it still caused headaches because his older sister felt it was her “right” to be a bridesmaid. You’ll get a headache either way, but minimize it where you can.

Post # 9
653 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I would have to say all or none! I wanted to ask my Fiance sister-in-law not even his sister but his other sister-in-law freaked! So now neither of them are in my wedding party lol

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