- 5 years ago
I feel silly writing this already! So my mom has not been one to communicate with me at all. ever. (like mother/daughter talks etc.) So now that I’m 24, talking to her about more personal items isn’t easy. I feel distant and ackward bringing anything up.
And just a few examples- As a teenager, whenever someone asked me if i was into makeup or had a boyfriend, she always jumped in and said no without leaving me the option to answer. Using tampons were out of the question for her, she wouldn’t dare say the word “period” until I was over the age of 18. Maybe even later than that? And now that I think about it, I had to learn about periods from a tv show! Sex talk? Never heard one in my life.
I guess her effort was to protect me, and my efforts were to not disappoint her by having a boyfriend/wear make up etc. Probably to avoid confrontations too. lol
Since then I’ve always kept my life pretty personal. I’ve had boyfriends but nothing serious so I didn’t bother telling her about it/introducing them to her. However, now that time has flew by, and my GYN asked me the other day if I’ve been with the same guy for the past 4years that I’ve been seeing her, it hit me pretty hard lol. I realized that I’m in a serious relationship and haven’t told my mom yet! I believe we are eventually going to move in together so I mean…. I have to tell her. She deserves to atleast know! And I would feel better. We don’t plan on having children anytime soon though, I just had a mirena put in 🙂 But I did see some pretty great ideas on here how to break the news of pregnancy which I will certainly keep in mind!!!
By The Way my boyfriend thinks they are crazy most of the time so he doesn’t mind NOT seeing them. Even more of a headache on me…
I’ve tried to spend time together and plan girly things to try to bond but it’s just not happeneing. It’s still ackward. I get the courage to say it… but I chicken out. HELP!