Post # 1
So we all have seen threads that ask for advice to soon-to-be engaged and/or newlyweds?
I don’t think I’ve seen one of these in the babies board. So have any advice or things to remember to do while you are TTC or while you are pregnant or after having birth. Is there anything you didn’t do that you wish you did do?
For someone who will start TTC soon, by the end of the summer (yay!!), I wanna know what all you mother’s think.
Post # 3
I wish I would have enjoyed pregnancy more and gotten pictures of the belly. I wish I would have taken more pictures during the birthing process (not necessarily of her coming out). And I really wish I would have gotten professional pictures of her shortly after birth. My advice is to take lots of pictures (especially one for every month, there are lots of needs for them baby books etc.), write down the date of every milestone and achievement, and enjoy your new little blessing because it goes by too fast. Don’t worry about your baby not being at the normal development stage because they all develop at different rates =)
Post # 4
I am already falling behind at journalling. If you have trouble TTC I would also start a journal or chart showing what exactly you are trying. This could be helpful to your daughter some day!
Post # 5
I wish I would have taken more time off on maternity leave. 🙂 Take as much as you possibly can, because it really does go by so fast!
Post # 6
Enjoy every second of your pregnancy and your baby because it flies by so fast!!!!
Post # 7
Why do we get so little maternity leave?! 6 weeks is NOT enough time!!
Post # 8
The advice I have gotten most is to follow your instincts. Don’t be afraid to ask for a second oppinion or to seek help elsewhere, whether it’s because you feel your baby is sick, you’re having difficulty breastfeeding, or whatever.
You read lots of negative stories of women being told to do things that go against their instincts, to their own and their child’s detriment. Just read some of the stories on this website.
Post # 9
I’m still 10 weeks away, but here’s some advice from friends who’ve been through it & from other sites that I plan to take advantage of:
- Do a LOT of squats…apparently this will REALLY help when you actually give birth, regardless of whether you go all natural or plan to have a medicated birth
- Do Kegel exercises…while the goal of pregnancy is to have a healthy baby, the goal of marriage is to have a healthy relationship & that includes sex. This will help prep you “down there” both for giving birth (& hopefully preventing tears or episiotomies) & getting back “in-shape”
- Perineum Massage…same as above point
- Make a Baby Bucket List (stuff you want to do before the Baby comes – you could do this while TTCing, too!) & try to check stuff off of it
- If you like learning about stuff in a group setting rather than reading books & you’ve never experienced breastfeeding or diaper changing or saving an infant through CPR, sign up for your hospital’s or healthcare plan’s prep classes (this one’s from my Maid/Matron of Honor who is 1 month ahead of me…the 4 of us are taking the classes together, like an extension of the wedding!)
- Start making regular “Date Nights” with your DH/SO, if you haven’t done so already…bringing up your child with the BOTH of you involved starts with a solid relationship between the two of YOU that’s maintained even after the child is born. Keep up with the “Date Nights” after the baby’s born…it’s easy to forget about each other when the little one takes up so much time & is the center of your world, but it will help keep you both on the same page as the little one starts to grow more independent – apparently that independence happens sooner than you think
- Tip from ME: Get informed about all the different methods of giving birth & choose what’s right for YOU…a book that didn’t try to preach, that I liked was: Deliver This! by Margaret Cohen.
- Also, know ahead of time that if you plan to breastfeed, your restricted diet of limited to no alcohol or raw fish or unpastuerized juice/dairy will continue for as long as you breastfeed. This was a minor blow to me, as I didn’t know that I’ll be on restricted from my dream meal of sushi, sashimi, & sake until I decide to stop BFing about 9m to a year after the Kid is born…if you like these restricted foods, go on a “Fat Tuesday” before you TTC or on those many days when you know conceiving just ain’t gonna happen
Thanks for posting this thread! I’m looking forward to more answers that I can try to cram in to these last 10 weeks!