(Closed) Advice!!!!! Traveling to baptism in month before wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Unfortunately, I think you have to go. Is there any chance you can stay with them at their house to reduce costs? Or another relative that lives in the Chicago area? 

We are invited to a wedding two weeks before our wedding and are still debating whether or not to go. We, too, will have a lot of bills due around that time and will have a lot going on! But it seems that if we don’t go, I will regret it looking back. 

When you look back in a number of years, I think that you will regret not being there if you choose not to go. I think that I will regret not going to this wedding. At least you have plenty of notice between now and then to try and figure it out financially. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yep, sorry, you have to go

Post # 5
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3774 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Agree with PPs. You gotta just bite the bullet and go.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper

Look at it the other way. They will be spending a great deal of money to attend your wedding two months after the birth of their financial burden, I mean baby. I am sure they don’t really need to be spending the money to attend your life milestone either.

Besides it seems like your Fiance wants to attend and is probably important to him. Don’t forget that these people will be your family too soon.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Chicago is a huge hub for United. They have 4-6 flights a day in each direction between bwi and Chicago, plus more to Dulles and DCA. Fly up in the morning and back the same day. No hotel required— really cuts the expenses down. You’re only in the air for 90 minutes anyway.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

You really should go! Baptisms are a pretty huge deal to good Catholics, and you don’t want to upset your new family!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think you have to go.  If you play your cards right, you might be able to stay with family in the area and cut down on costs.  Otherwise, try to minimise the time you’re in Chicago, and look for hotel and airfare deals.  And make it clear to your family that the baptism gift will be very small since your presence is really the gift here.  

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I agree with the rest. Figure out a way to do it more cheaply and just suck it up. Sorry but this is a major family milestone. 

Post # 11
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5955 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

You definetly have to go.  How do you think they feel traveling to your wedding just a couple of months after having a baby?

Maybe you can find ways to reduce the cost by staying with some family/frinds in town? 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@j_jaye:  +1 Very good point about them paying to visit for OP’s milestone.

It is tough OP, but I think it would cause more trouble between your future inlawas and possibly between you and your Fiance if you do not go. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

  • Southwest flies from both BWI and Midway. I’ve flown for around $200 on that route recently.  
  • Use Priceline for your hotel room, you can stay for much cheaper in areas outside of downtown. Use betterbidding.com for Priceline hotel reviews and probable winning hotel names.
  • If that isnt attractive to you, check out Groupon and Living Social travel– i frequently see deals for downtown hotels there. 
  • Also on Groupon, you can purchase a 3 day CTA (train/bus) pass for $9 as opposed to the regular $20 rate.
  • If you need a car and if you have a Costco membership, use it for your rental car and book via costcotravel.com . 

There are lots of ways to travel cheaper, they just require a little more work. Good luck!

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