- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
I’m normally a patient person. But days like this, I just can’t keep it in. I hate my Mother-In-Law. There, I said it! She’s a despicable person. She looks down at everyone, thinks she knows everything, and for many years, used to having her way. She has 3 grown sons and a husband that does eveything she wants. Just a subtle hint and they’re off to do what she wants done.
Even when I first met her, she would look at me like a thief about to steal something. I would go out of my way to please her, I would try to be helpful, considerate, always reminding my Darling Husband to call her, buy her flowers whenever we see her and making husband hand it to her even if I bought and picked it out.
It took two years to realize this woman is just awful. She’s never liked me, and in the beginning she was slick at disguising it – cutting comments only when I’m in the room to hear, gives me looks when she thinks I’m not looking. I thought I was imagining things! Being too sensitive. “There’s no way someone that vile can raise such a wonderful man!”, I thought.
I wasn’t imagining it and I just don’t know how to deal with it! How do I deal with it? Can someone please offer me some words of wisdom?! I don’t even want to explain how she last disrespected me! Thinking of her churns my stomach! Do I just ignore it? She is my Mother-In-Law afterall?! Do I refuse to see her again and create a drift in the family?
I would never have Darling Husband chose, and never have ever hinted at it. I know she will always be his mother but I can no longer pretend! We live in the same city! There’s birthdays, holidays, all of it. Do I just not go?
I should also mention that we moved to my husband’s hometown, where I know no one. He’s closer to his family and found a great job here, it made sense and to me, it was worth the sacrifice. But with Mother-In-Law trying to dominate all of our weekends, and spending anymore time with her is like getting a root canal, this is too much of a sacrifice.
Here I thought we’d live happily ever after, just the two of us and our future family. What do I do?