- 6 years ago
Hi all 🙂
I have been lurking on these boards for a while (mostly admiring the beautiful ring photos!) and have finally decided to make an account to ask about something that is bothering me. Apologies for the long post but I am looking for advice with my boyfriend who won’t propose… something that is no doubt posted quite frequently here.
To start, we have been together for nearly 4 years now. I am 27 and he is 29. There is no doubt in my mind that we are committed to each other – we met in Canada (where I am from) and after his visa expired, I followed him back to his home of Australia where we have lived together for the past 2.5 years. We are moving back to Canada in August and we are both very excited for it.
We live 20 minutes away from his entire extended family – they are extremely close and have welcomed me with open arms. I have grown especially close to his mom and his older sister and feel as though I am already part of the family. His mom refers to me as her daughter-in-law.
His younger brother has just gotten engaged to his girlfriend of two years and we have gone to several parties and get-to-gethers to celebrate their engagement, always being asked when it will be our turn.
Over the past year my desire to get engaged has grown stronger and stronger.He has said that we can talk about getting engaged once we’re in Canada but when we move back we will be in a new town, on the other side of the country from my family and friends and on the other side of the world from his. It makes me a bit sad to think that we wouldn’t be able to have an engagement party or even have people there to be happy for us, like we would if he proposed here before we left. Is this an awful reason to want to speed up our engagement?
We both fully have the expectation of getting married and have even decided to have two kids within the next 5 years. We talk about this frequently, but recently when I bring up getting engaged he gets quite frustrated with me. I try my hardest to forget about it but inevitably when it comes up again, it usually results in an argument.
We are attending two weddings in the next three months, and each time it seems like a painful reminder that I am still waiting. His residency has a condition that we must stay together for atleast two years after arriving in Canada so there’s no doubt he wants to be with me, but why won’t he just propose?!
Waiting bees, what are your recommendations for de-stressing and just letting things happen naturally?